humble person who appears foolish but is secretly clever, rather than an arrogant person who is supposedly intelligent but behaves unwisely.
Life constantly presents us with choices: who we associate with, the voices we listen to, and the company we keep. These choices often determine our direction, our values, and ultimately, our destiny. The old proverb, “It’s better to weep with wise men than to laugh with fools,” is a timeless reminder about the importance of discernment in relationships and the pursuit of wisdom.
Wise men are not always the most entertaining or flattering companions. Their words may challenge us, their counsel may confront our flaws, and their paths may demand sacrifice, discipline, and patience. At times, walking with them may even bring moments of discomfort or sorrow because truth can be difficult to embrace. Yet, even in those tears lies growth, strength, and lasting benefit. To “weep with the wise” means being willing to endure temporary pain, correction, or struggle for the sake of long-term gain and transformation.
The Foolish Laughter
On the other hand, laughter with fools often feels easier and more exciting in the moment. Fools entertain, flatter, and encourage reckless indulgence. They create an illusion of joy while leading others down paths of carelessness, waste, and regret. The laughter is loud but shallow, and when it fades, it leaves behind emptiness and destruction. History is filled with stories of individuals whose downfall came from keeping company with the wrong crowd, trading wisdom for momentary pleasures.
Weeping with wise men often signifies seasons of discipline, learning, or humility. A student endures long nights of study while others party. A leader faces criticism for making ethical decisions while others choose shortcuts. A parent sacrifices today’s comfort to invest in their child’s future. These moments may bring tears, but they also build character and open doors to lasting success.
Laughter with fools, however, is personally it's better laughing a foolish stranger than a wicked brother at the expense of long-term fulfillment. It is choosing ease over effort, popularity over principle, and pleasure over purpose. The price eventually proves too costly.
Choices
I rather choose laugh with a fool Than a wicked brother, their actions are decceit and wickedness like my brothers are, they only come around when it will profit them, wisdom lies in choosing substance over superficiality, even when it hurts. Weep with the wise, because those tears water the seeds of your growth. Surround yourself with people who sharpen your mind, challenge your values, and call you to higher standards, even when it stings. That way, when joy does come, it will be deeper, purer, and enduring.
End
The proverb reminds me that all laughter is good, and not all brothers are worthy to be called a brother What matters is the source and the outcome of my life. To discomfort for eternal reward. To laugh with fools is to enjoy fleeting pleasure that leads to ruin. Choose wisely, for your companions are often I can't no longer settle with less. As life has no duplicate and no second chance life.
©ekeke
