There are certain moments in life when we feel we are frustrated enough and believe cheating is the right way, there are moments when we feel we have a genuine reason to cheat, moments we feel we might not get caught, but if we understand what cheating actually does, we won't want to cheat.

Cheats need to realize that random or external sexual partners are considered based on facial or external structures, it is hardly ever about love or character.

This write up is targeted at the males and females.

The men

Men who cheat are scum no matter their excuse. Cheating brings no joy, you get totally shrouded in secrecy, you become guilt ridden and that is just a tip of the iceberg. If you are in a relationship or married to a bad person, even if the person is also a cheat, there are two options...
You either walk away or talk your way.

There is simply no excuse, if you love your partner enough not to walk away, then you should love the person enough not to cheat. Cheating is not tied to a single gender and any man who uses the "men were not created to be with one woman phrase" as a defense is a fool. I am also a man so I know I am being fair.

The truth about cheating men is that most times, they can't even stand the thought of another man or woman on top their wives, yet they don't care when they cheat. The next time you as a married man is about to zip down and get busy with another female, picture your partner giving another man the reverse cowgirl.

If you think you are unmarried so that gives you the right to cheat as a man, then you are grossly mistaken. What if your sisters were being cheated on the way you cheat on other people's sisters, will that put a smile on your face?
Life is give and take and you are simply not excused. The truth with cheats is they need to realize it's just their hormones talking, the minute you are done, your problems arise because at that point, your eyes will become clear.

Some men call their sexual partners their bitches and they feel proud at the number they have, do you know that after one partner, any subsequent addition is a ticket to either poverty, misery or death. They fail to realize that they will feel fly until they drop dead like flies.

A woman can make a man who is a millionaire into a billionaire and a man who is a billionaire into a millionaire.

Men need to understand that women are smarter than we give them credit for, although they are prone to emotional bias, but truth be told, we are also prone to such, just that pride won't let men admit to being sissies. You think the extra lady will simply want to be a free meat? Think again, you just signed off your marriage or relationship into the realm of break ups.

The women

The most funny thing I have ever heard from a cheating woman is saying they keep multiple partners so they don't get disappointed. The proper way they say it is not keeping all their eggs in one basket.
Let me disappoint you, you have four boyfriends and you have to please all of them equally, you tell four men you love them and you convince yourself you love all four, the truth is you lack discipline.

Let me point out the flaws in that so called genius idea, what if one of them has a disease, congratulations you just infected the remaining three. Let us assume one is faithful to you, you just earned a degree as the world's worst asshole, because no matter how you try to spin it, you are a cheat who is keeping three extra boyfriends aside the faithful partner.

That means you are exactly what you fear, how ironic is life? Those who hate cheating and don't want to "lose" as a result of being cheated upon, now cheat on the innocent ones who truly loved them and lose it all.
How ironic is it when all four eventually disappoint you? Look at the bottle half full not half empty.

If in your case you cheat not to be cheated upon, then realize that you are what you are fighting and that is hypocrisy. Just imagine you now meet the person you think is the one only for you to discover you are just another tally number, how will that make you feel? Love and relationships are not for the feint of heart.

Cheating will put you in a position where you might actually fall for the wrong person, be used for fun and lose the right person. As adventurous as having multiple sex partners can be (because it's not right), realize that you are the rust in the metal.

If all men are cheats, I have one question, aside the gays, who do the men cheat with if not other women? One man cheats with several women who feel they are taking out insurance by dating several men and we wonder why we are losing the war on diseases.

General conclusion

Make your partner into your dream or fantasy. If you are married, remember what brought you two together in the first place. The myth about why males were not created to be monogamous is false, it doesn't explain why there are couples who grow old together without a single incidence of infidelity.

Your partner's size or looks should not discourage you, if the person is old, remember that the younger version chose you to spend an eternity with. A person who offers you love doesn't deserve disrespect in return.
If your partner ain't doing you right (in all aspects) try to talk about it.

Remember the bro and sis code, always think about how your fellow sisters will feel when you are sleeping with their man and think about how you will feel too. Same also, think about how your brothers will feel when you are sleeping about with their woman. If you got a partner and you look outside, you are scum.