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I was trying to clear up a hypothesis I had in my head about the dynamics between men and women.
Women are good at sizing people up (in general) socially, and men are good at sizing men up (in specific) psychologically.
Some have speculated that women look into a room of people and know who is the boss, and men can look into that same room and know who they will be taking orders from or giving orders to.
There is a large overlap in that... but then I could be wrong.
There are several theories on the feminocentric/gnocentric nature of society, as described by the University of Massachusetts philosopher Christa Hodapp.
He sees it as an extension of medieval behavior where women were always seen as a quasi-aristocratic class, and men were seen as a serving class. He postulates that men's movements (which have been seen as misogynistic) face tyranny by these societal frameworks.
My hypothesis - if this view is true - is that women tend to dictate behavior for people socially and are more likely to know when people are behaving in social order.
If what I am saying is true, women are responsible for social constructs. Men would be more or less responders to social pressure, dismantling and putting together social (and infrastructural albeit out of the point) structures through culture and tradition.
One prime example is birthdays. Driving to work yesterday, my father and I got into a conversation about what he should buy my mother for her birthday... then, after we bought her the gift, he (a 72-year-old man) asked me why he should be buying gifts for a woman who knows he loves her.
My father would lay down his life fighting to protect this family he has built with my mother. His fingers tell the story of when he fought off men who tried to kill him and leave the family fatherless. He fell into an open sea and swam for a long time to be with my mother (very long story short).
My father is a hero, but even he has questions as to why he should perform certain rituals. For a man who loves to spend on big gadgets and fun new toys (for himself and everyone), he was lost on the need to keep dating his wife while married.
For men
Men are also the reason why women behave the way they do, but to a lesser degree than what I estimate women influence men's behavior.
In more conservative societies, men reward conservative behavior, and the same would be true for more liberal societies. This is also evidenced by the significantly high levels of agreeableness seen among women.
In the song "Lady" by Fela Kuti, he explains the differences between liberal and conservative women:
Regarding women, some speculate that most of their behavior is centered around caring for children, which may lead to higher els of neuroticism, anxiety, and depression (a hypothesis by Jordan Peterson).
It can also be said that most of a man's behavior and biology are centered around caring for women. For every aggressive tendency, extra upper body strength, or poem ever written, men do or are so to provide and protect women. The protection is mostly from other men.
No animal has killed humans intentionally as much as humans have, specifically men. Men can be dangerous. If a man will protect, he has to be more dangerous than the other man.
If a man does not seek to protect you, he does not care about you.
It was the same thinking that led the apostle Paul to write the long message to the believers in Corinthians about love and against the Greek goddess of sexuality, Aphrodite.
Men become cautious and overprotective at the instance of provocative dressing because we know how men think. In every man, it's all in him: the violence, the calm, and the resolve, with variations, of course, more so than others, but very different from the way women do.
To men, my advice is to not stop showing you care unless you don't. Then you don't.
Feminism Psychology
Yesterday, I came across the most interesting piece of literature on Wikipedia. It was so contradicting that it had a lot of aspects worth noting.
The concept of feminist psychology is intriguing. The paragraphs around this topic delve into how some psychologists in the past saw normal female behavior, such as attachment to their children (mom-ism), particularly their sons, as pathological and thought men were supposed to think the same.
Feminist psychology, in line with Freud's view, was against such old schools of thought and was supposed to be an antidote to this.
Modern gender ideology is the exact opposite of feminist ideology in this regard and intends to push the scale further backward by inferring that men can become women in an attempt to normalize gender dysphoria, a mental health epidemic.
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Conclusion
In conclusion, the dynamics between men and women are complex and multifaceted. Additionally, societal constructs and norms play a significant role in shaping behavior and attitudes, and it is important to consider the impact of these constructs on both men and women.
When it comes to relationships between men and women, both parties play a role in shaping behavior and attitudes. While women may have a greater influence on social constructs...men appear to respond with culture and traditions.
In terms of feminist psychology, it is important to recognize the historical context and the need for a more nuanced and intersectional approach to understanding gender and behavior.
Finally, it is important to be mindful of the ways in which societal constructs and gender norms impact mental health and wellbeing. The normalization of gender dysphoria and the push to erase gender as a social construct can have unintended consequences and may exacerbate mental health issues. It is important to approach these issues with sensitivity and understanding, and to prioritize the mental health and wellbeing of all individuals.
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Do you believe there are innate differences between how men and women perceive and navigate social dynamics? What do you think are some of the key factors that contribute to societal gender roles and expectations?
In your experience, do women tend to have a better sense of social dynamics and hierarchy than men, or vice versa? How do you think societal attitudes toward gender and gender roles have evolved over time?