Before I got married, I knew I had a problem, which was checking up on people and my family I’ve tried to help with this problem by calling my attention to it because the problem lasted a long time in my life simply because I was not ready to change. A lot of people called my attention to it, but I did nothing about it, which made the problem worse. I had friends who stopped talking to me just because of this simple problem, they thought the friendship seemed one-sided. Some of my friends understand that that’s just me is not if I have anything in mind.
The truth is if I don’t like you, I can never get along with you. I will not even talk to you in the first place. I have some of my friends who know this, they know that not checking up for people or not reaching out is not something I do just to make that person feel less, or things I do just because I don’t rate the person, It’s something that I've been battling with all my life. After I got married, I realized there are some things I need to change. I need to start doing things that will make me more responsible because it doesn’t make any sense if you have a wife or family without reaching out to them, I know things have to change.
Tech helps but not entirely true
I reached out to people on how I can easily change this bad habit so many people gave me advice but the one I could follow then was the simplest one which is to set a reminder at a specific time of the day to call my loved ones and my friends to not look as if I purposely neglect them so they also know that I have them in mind. To me, I always have them in mind but work and things just don’t make me reach out, I don’t even know how to explain this to make sense.
I set Reminders and mind you this is not the first time I’ll be setting a reminder. This changed a lot of things, I started reaching out to people, reaching out to my wife and family, friends, and everyone who needed to hear from me. I thought setting a reminder would not work because I’ve done it in the past which I could tell you that it failed awfully but things changed this time just because I chose to change. I realize that it is necessary, but it doesn’t make any sense to call myself a married man without doing the simplest thing that makes me a man.
You!
I know we have people in situations struggling to do one thing or the other. I can bet it with you that you are the problem. You are the one who is not ready to turn this into a habit. Even a strong will sometimes can fail because some of the things that we need to change our automated by our brain and will not always help us. I’ve been there, and one of the things that will help you is making sure that the thing you are trying to do you turn into a habit. It will become very easy for you, but you have to start from something relatable. Something simple for you. I’m always on my phone That’s why I used it in my own case. You can use anything that works for you. Just make sure you have the conviction that you want to do this and want to make it work and it will definitely work.
