One thing that I realize is common in almost everybody around me is blaming everything around them. This was also me a few years ago, where I blamed everything around me just because it made me feel better. When I did something that was not performing well, when something happened to me, or if what I did was my fault, I always blamed someone for it. This does not stop there; this goes as far as me not accepting compliments.
When people complimented me about my hard work or my look, instead of telling them thank you I would say it happens by luck. If it is concerning beauty, maybe I look handsome or I did something that rewarded me massively and the response will be I am just lucky and that is what I believe too. I don’t accept my fault and I also don’t personalize my achievement or success. I believe everything that happened is out of my control and there’s always a reason for things to happen not until I change my perspective and I start seeing things differently.
Always control the outcome
Most people have this belief, they can’t control anything and what’s that brings is you not accepting when you are wrong and even when you are doing something right. this mentality makes you feel good about yourself, but is the kind of mentality that put you in one place for a very long time. You might not see any results in your life and even if you are seeing results, it is always much better when you put yourself in a position of you control the outcome and also believe you are in charge.
When you start believing that you can control the outcome you start seeing things differently. Instead of you blaming everything around you, you start shifting the blame to yourself and this will help you in two ways. Let you change your approach and what you can do better to get the right result.  It makes you more responsible and you also become more productive.
Be better next time
When you start believing that you are in charge of the outcome, and you have the power to change things, and you accept the blame. You do better next time because this will help you to make better decisions, instead of giving excuses on why you are late you make sure that it doesn’t happen again. After all, you know that part of it is your fault and you can ask well leave home early. This approach also helps you when people compliment you. It also makes you want to do better next time.
Blaming everything around you might make you feel better but you are on the wrong path and you might be going to your doom. We need a mentality shift of things that can challenge us to do better because that is the only way we can maximize our efforts in life and there is no other way to it.
Thanks for your time.
