The truth about life is that everyone is facing their own struggles. While some people may be dealing with much more than others, it doesn’t diminish the significance of anyone's challenges. A common mistake people make when seeking help is that others often perceive them as having everything together. This can lead to the false belief that their problems are insignificant and that they should be able to assist others instead. This misunderstanding can be dangerous when someone is looking for support.
No matter how small a problem may seem, it is still a problem, and that is something some people struggle to accept. The more comfortable you become, the harder it is to handle issues, and even minor problems can feel overwhelming. What may seem insignificant to you could be the very reason someone else is contemplating suicide or having trouble sleeping at night. If people choose not to help you, try not to take it personally, they may also be dealing with their own challenges and are prioritizing their problems over yours.
Everybody is going through something I don’t blame them when they prioritize their problems over yours.
Another thing I normally hear people say is that "doing that shouldn’t be a problem for you". That is an illusion that makes people entitled. You are indeed seeking a small help but instead of solving your small problem, they can also use the resources to solve part of their problems. Don’t blame people when they think like this, instead of helping with your small problem they can use that opportunity to solve some of their problems, it is their resources and they can use it the way they like.
Don’t blame anybody for prioritizing themselves because if you have the chance to be in their shoe there is a 90% chance that you are going to prioritize yourself over them too, so that’s why you should not blame anybody in this kind of situation. If you understand this, you should know by now that when somebody helps you, you mean something to them, and you should not take their generosity for granted or make them feel as if they have not done enough for you.
This is why we should learn to say thank you to anybody who renders help to us and there is nothing like a small help.
Some people are willing to set aside their own problems just to help you, and they need help too. When someone offers assistance, no matter how small it may seem to you, it's important to recognize that they are also facing challenges. You should be grateful and avoid making them feel as if they are not doing enough. In Nigeria, it’s common for people to make you feel bad when you offer just a little help and you cant solve all their problems. It’s crucial to appreciate their efforts and acknowledge the difficulties they may be experiencing.
It’s very important to always be genuinely thankful no matter how small the help was any resource that someone is using for you They can also use that resource to take care of themselves and people have the right to use their resources the way they like and that is to say, we don’t owe anybody anything.
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