Nobody is smarter than their situations and that is the reason I used to tell people to always put their self in a situation where they won’t be helpless because when you are helpless things that are not normal will seem normal to you all because you need help. You will probably lose a lot of people during this time and what many people always get wrong is tagging those who could not stick around as bad people but in reality, they are also going through a lot. If we put ourselves in their position we will probably do the same and that is how our situation limits people around us and makes it hard for us to grow.
When you beg for help, too many people will run away from you and you will notice this within a short period which means nobody likes it, especially financial help. I remember a few years ago when I asked a childhood friend of mine for financial help and he immediately blocked contact, it is not as if I have been disturbing him before but the truth is, we are not close to the level of asking him money and that is how I lose that guy and the friendship, this can happen to anyone and your situation may drive many people away from you, isolate you and People talk about isolation like it is a blessing but it is not.
Don’t take it to heart
Sometimes we need people around us not only for the help that they can give us but for something to inspire us and for somebody to learn from, nothing good will come from isolation because even when you believe that you are doing well for yourself you might still need people around you that can push you because it will only make you go faster in life. I’ve shared my experience here on this platform on how I follow some accounts closely to checkmate my development and it has been helpful, we need people like that around us and that is why we must not use our problem to chase everybody around us away.
It is always hurtful when people around us can’t help and we also let our pain out by trying to avoid them and sometimes trying to cut ties with them. people isolate themselves because people around them can’t help them, we make it seem as if we only have people around us because of the help that they can offer which I believe is wrong. when you are living your life in such a way that people around you must help, you will end up losing more people, we should chase a life that comes with complete freedom that we can do anything we want anytime we want, that is how we can get the true value of people.
Don’t be entitled
Don’t ever be entitled to anybody even including your family when you expect something from them and they can’t give you, go make it yourself, this does not mean that you should take it to heart and never have anything to do with them again, we have a lot of things we can gain from each other apart from financial help and what makes you so sure that person can help you when you cannot help yourself, we must get our mind right.
Thanks for your time.
