A friend of mine gave birth to her first son when we were in high school , and she swore to be serious with her life and take full responsibility for the child. A few years later, she gave birth to another child for a different person entirely, which makes it two children with two other fathers, and both children came out of wedlock. I never thought she could make such a mistake again because she swore that she would be responsible, which she did, but she missed something.
We have a lot of people out there who claim to be responsible, but the problem they have is accountability. They are responsible, but they are not accountable. You see people claiming that they are responsible, and they go back to the same thing that they swore not to do again, and this is because they are only responsible and not accountable. Most people make the mistake of thinking that responsibility makes you accountable, but it is a lie. You have to be intentional about it.
Responsibility is knowing that you’ve made a mistake and you want to change. Accountability is being intentional and making sure you don’t make that mistake again.
The truth is, there is nothing bad about making a mistake, and there is nobody out there who can tell you that they have not made one mistake or two, and mistakes come in any form. It doesn’t have to be from your sexual life. Mistakes can come from financial, marriage, your relationship with people, and so on. As long as you are trying, there is a chance that you will always make a mistake, but you must be the type that learn from mistakes and not the type that repeats the same mistake over and over again.
Immediately you become accountable, you begin to become extra careful about your life, and you learn from your mistakes. Most importantly, you become so cautious not to repeat the same mistake, because if you repeat the same mistake, it only shows that you are not accountable. You neglect your belief and what your mind is telling you, just to make yourself feel good, or to make yourself happy. At the end of the day, it always leads to regret.
You can be responsible and not accountable. We must be responsible and also accountable at the same time, because this means we learn from our mistakes.
Most of the things that happened to us are our fault; for instance, a popular Ponzi scheme crashed in Nigeria a few weeks ago, and a lot of people lost a lot of money. If you ask me, I would say it is those people's fault because they don’t take their time to research and do their due diligence on the Ponzi. They are only looking at the interest it provides, which shows that they are not accountable. The funniest part is that people are falling for this week over and over again.
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