I will be talking about moral upbringing, let's take look at this example; One day, a four year old boy was dropped in front of the house by the school bus and he hurried in.
He entered his parents’ room and found his father with the maid rolling on each other.
“I will tell mummy” was what the little boy repeatedly said. The father quickly stood up to keep him quiet but the little boy would not consent until the father had to promise to buy him a football he had been refusing to buy. Since then, anytime the daddy came back from work, the boy would ask “Where is my ball?” Once the father could not provide it the child would threaten, “I will tell mummy o”.
This continued fbr some days until one day at table, the boy raised the issue again. “What is it that you want to tell me my boy? ”asked the mother. “Don’t mind him ” refuted the father. But the boy would not be quiet. The mother became suspicious and she had to convince the boy saying “Now tell me, what it is? You know I use to buy you chocolate and take you to Disneyland ” The little boy became brightened with the mother words of comfort and so he spoke up, 'Mummy, I saw Daddy and aunty Dana, they were doing what you and uncle Louis use to do” 'lhe equation is balanced, isn’t it? Aunty Comfort is the maid while Uncle Louis is the Mom’s driver.
You see! Your children are not insensitive to all that happen around them; in fact, those of our actions influence them a lot.
What kind of morality are you imparting into them? It is even strongly advised that you don’t sleep in the same room with your children so that you don’t expose them to your sexual activities.
The disciplines of your children are in your hands. If they are disciplined, you are praised for it, if they are not, you are blamed For it.
So, why don’t you try your best and make them face their lives as it ought to be. Being disciplined does not mean that you have to beat them like animals each time they are wrong; you don’t even need to abuse or curse them. They are your children, what they need from you is blessing and not curses or bombs of abuses.
Do not kill them with the rod yet don’t spare the same rod.
The Bible says in Proverb 13:24 that
“He who spare: the rod hates his son, hut he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
The Book of Proverbs continues to say that “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.” (Prov 23:13-14). In fact, “it is the son the Father
loves that he punishes”.
Let your children see the reason why they are being punished and they will praise you for that one day and they will not depart from your teachings and instructions.
In this way, it means your marriage is truly blessed because you children will make you feel so. Proverbs 20:7 says “The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him”. And in Chapter 31:10, 28 it says“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far
more than rubies. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her”
You are therefore highly responsible for their growth by good examples and treating each like special gift from God.
As such, they must be brought up in the way of the Lord, Taking them to the Church and allowing them to participate actively in Church activities is a very good way of placing them on spiritual and religious foundation.
Do not be a father or a mother who keeps telling the children to go to the Church but himself or herself will not go. Neither should you be the father or mother who teaches biblical principle but lives a contrary life -teach and live by example.
If you train them well in the fear of the Lord they will take proper care of you in the Lord and shall be sources of blessings and good living for the rest of your life.
Most parents want their children to grow up in other words, we define success not by how our children are doing today by what happens after they leave home.
