Forgiveness is for our own personal growth and joy.. When we hold on to hurt, pain, grievances, and rage it harms us far more than it harms the offender. Forgiveness frees us to live in the present. ... Forgiveness allows us to move on without anger or contempt or seeking revenge.
Forgiveness does not mean condoning or excusing a wrong. And it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. We can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. Reconciliation may follow forgiveness, but we can forgive an offender without reestablishing the relationship.
Forgiveness just means that you've made peace with the pain, and you are ready to let it go. 2. Forgiveness is not something we do for others - it's something we do for ourselves. Not forgiving someone is the equivalent of staying trapped in a jail cell of bitterness, serving time for someone else's crime.
Life is too short to hold on the negative emotions, they are exhausting. Replacing your negative emotions with the complete opposite will lead you to a happy, healthy, joyful lifestyle.
That is why forgiveness is so freeing.
Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others, and take away your confidence. Emotions that can become negative are hate, anger, jealousy and sadness
Positive Emotions may be considered as any feeling where there is a lack of negativity, such that no pain or discomfort is felt. Frederickson (2009) identifies the ten most common positive emotions as joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration, awe and love.
Below is a list of Negative Emotions with the polar opposite Positive Emotion right beside it. I use this all the time as I have choosen to live a positive, happy lifestyle.
Anger - affection
abandoned - adored, cherished
abused - valued, appreciated, cared for, tenderness
aggression - humility, gentleness
awful - wonder
bitter - enthusiasm, sweetness
boredom - involvement, interest, curiosity
closed - open, available
confusion - clarity
crazy, demented - sanity, stability
darkness - light, truth
depressed - happiness, loving life, in love with life
devastated - renewal, restored, complete
dirty, filthy - cleanliness, purity
disdain contempt - admiration, approval
disgust - delight
revulsion - appreciation
emptyfullness - fulfilment
fear - hope, love
frustration - contentment
giving up - endurance, stamina
guilt - innocence
hate, despise - love, in love
hopeless - hope, willing to go on ,hurt
hurt - relief, blessing
inferior - equality, feeling valued
lies - truth belonging, partnership
lost - belonging, at home, being discovered
mouldy - freshness
nervous - boldness, courage
numb - alive, new life
obsessed - freedom
pessimism - optimism
pointless - meaningfulness
poverty - wealth, abundance
putrid - sweet perfume, delight
rage - peace, ease, blessedness, vision
rejection - welcome, support, acceptance
remorse - ways to make amends
repulsion - attraction
sadness - happiness
shame - pride, purity, innocence
shyness - curiosity, boldness
spiteful - kindness, consideration
stuck - movement, flow
suspicion - trust
terror - peace, serenity, love