A big obstacle that often gets in the way of trying to solve our own problems in life, is when we become too easily distracted with blaming our problems on others.
Instead of trying to focus and get to the root of our own problems in life, we instead choose to focus on the problems of others, and this can easily prevent us from getting the issue resolved.
If we are upset in life, is it because someone else isn't doing their part to make us happy, or is it because we haven't taken the responsibility yet for our own happiness?
Whenever things don't go right, don't go our way, and problems arise, it can be an easy option to turn to others and blame the results on them.
This doesn't mean that problems cannot be caused by others at times, it just means that it is much easier for us to blame the problem on others than it is for us to take responsibility and move to do something about it.
Taking responsibility is a very difficult thing to do, especially when things go wrong and there has been loss and suffering as a result of those actions.
But when we are eager seek to embrace whatever part of the problem might have been our own, I think that the move to do so can only help us to arrive at a resolution that much faster.
Playing the “blame game” can be entertaining but it is only going to waste time and be a distraction tactic. There won't be meaningful work taking place to change things if the meaningful contribution to the problem hasn't yet been realized and addressed.
Some people have an easy time taking responsibility for things, while others really struggle with addressing their own role in any problems that might exist and I think it's something that gets easier with time, the more that you seek to do it.
It might not feel comfortable at first to face the problem head on, but once we admit any fault of our own that is when we can really start to move forward to make changes. Once we stop dancing around excuses and distracting ourselves by the actions of others, then we can do what we can to try and make the problem better.
Sometimes a root of rejection can play a big part in whether or not we feel comfortable with rushing to take responsibility when things go wrong.
If we have nothing but a path of disappointment and rejection behind us, it might feel overwhelming to be faced with yet one more thing that we might have done wrong, one more way that we might have disappointed someone.
It might be easier for some to manage failure than it is for others but if it isn't easy for us that doesn't mean that we cannot work to get better and improve in that area.
Passing off the blame and trying to justify the problem can keep us from moving forward. And rather than looking at an opportunity to claim responsibility as a negative situation that punishes us, we can look to it as an opportunity for learning and growth. Learning to accept correction in the form of admitting our own responsibility when it comes to problems that arise, isn't an easy feat to accomplish, but it can help us to embrace what's really the truth of the matter.
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