As humans, no matter how, we tend to find situations that speaks a language we don't understand or we don't want to get involved with. Such moments could arise from very serious cases to ones that we could consider minor and inconsiderate, however the turn out of events could be something surprising. Sometimes, it's in the heated moments, other times in the cold quiet moments that seem not to mutter anything or utter a word, but then, it speaks volumes to the possible outcome still.
I've happened to come across some of such situations—the cold quiet and the heated ones. One thing for sure is that one needs to learn how to evade or address the situation, lest it turns out in a funny and unexpected way. The human emotions could be triggered; sometimes within a twinkle of an eye, and what comes afterwards could be derailing or unbelievable. So, I guess it's necessary to be able to read situations and see the possible outcome of a situation, to know the right possible actions to take.
When it gets heated, it will be good to avoid such a situation. Certainly, the outcome doesn't turn out well. Not until it gets heated even, at the slightest notice of the tendency, one would do well to walk away or avoid the instances to save their peace and momentary sanity. I witnessed one of such situations some time ago. It involved a lady and a young man.
We were out on a program. Amidst it, she wanted stepping out to pick a phone call. I was seated at the door area together with the young man and a few others. She approached the door, hoping she'll be excused of course, as courtesy demands. The young man in turn wanted to be a bit playful and jovial, to say. So he didn't move his own leg to allow her passage. In a kind of rush, she shrugged over his legs and passed through. Here then comes the icing to the cake, and where I think he should've held himself back
He went ahead to make a comment. Seated there, I found the first instance already disturbing, likewise his inability to understand that the lady wasn't really in a mood to take his "jovial" approach. Thinking all was already okay, there came the second scenario. The lady returned after her call, lashing words at the young man who was trying to be defensive. I guess the statement he made got her provoked. He had failed to understand the complexity of the situation and the state of the lady on his funny or jovial approach, thus going ahead to do more that sparked up the second situation.
Walking away when it gets heated or about to could not necessarily mean the literal walking away. Rather, having the decorum, forethought and understanding of the situation at hand to withdraw further actions, holding them back. This can easily bring calm to situation and peace for everyone. Nevertheless, the literal walking away could be the needed action to take sometimes. We have a duty to also avoid starting a flame that could become a fire; and even when we do, we should find the sand quick enough to quench it.
This is my entry for the #aprilinleo prompt, day 22 in collaboration with Emotions and Feelings. You can participate here.
