Disclaimer,
ALL social media apps please don't take offence and burn me xD
also not trying to put anyone down or judging people for their lifestyle choices, its all good as long as y'all know what you're up to, all fun and games till people start breaking shit, right ? or are those part of the games too?
Back to the subject, Let's talk about what's fundamentally wrong with the Whole "Dating" epidemic that our generation is facing. Social media made things easier for us introverts (or so we claim to) by bringing things that we'd probably have to get out to do, meet, confront and converse person to person, down to our doorsteps packaged in a fancy shiny silver ribbon bound form, but then again less socializing, more about gratification and boosting one's ego, us humans sure are innovative when it comes to misusing thing.
That was followed by personalized applications for dating, all hail the internet overlords, people reduced to mere swipes. BUT that's alright too, Nice ui, easy to use, if a dummy can use it so can you, you lazy oaf.
WHAT really happened with this is that humans forgot how to human, we turned into insensitive little troglodytes, Stopped looking at other people as people, reduced them to mere sexual objects, of course that one tinder match you had didn't work out because you wanted to fuck the shit out of them virtually, while they probably wanted to connect with another human, or the other way around.
The only reason you're probably single right now is because you forgot the first time you got into a relationship, you actually invested on a said person for a long long while, way before you started developing emotions, there was a bond that grew, the kinda bond that you now develop with pets easier, that is what had you going. Now you probably want to meet a person and drag them to bed quicker than they could spell your name. Slow the fuck down guys, communicate a bit, get to know the person a bit, okay if a month's worth of investment is too much given we live on the fast lane, at least spare a fucking week before you get yourself a new Jeffry Dahmer or Ted Bundy, they might be hot but they'll probably like you better as a dish or cold meat they can fiddle with. Long Story short, make sure that they're not a potential threat to your oh so healthy emotional and mental state, real human connections take longer than just a few drinks, or a loose clothes, it happens over time with either or both of you learning to trust one another, that's something that kills most relationships these days, there is probably little to no trust at all and its all about the "Lightning in a bottle kinda love" that's not going to hold good, glass's gotta break at some point and fry y'all.
If both of you have your priorities sorted and want to go all out physical with each other, thats cool too, but we all have been made to feel that it isn't okay, there's this whole stigma around sleeping around and people that thrive for the physical bit but not the rest of it, and the stigma all started with us, stop judging the next person that says they prefer physical relationships over a full on emotional lovey dovey notebook ish episode, its fucking okay to fuck around, precautions are needed of course. Just make sure you're both on the same page about it and have the possibility of emotions getting in there and complicating things up, also be ready to deal with that mess, clean up after yourselves kids. Things always get complicated when you're dealing with two human brains, those bodies come attached with one each, better start using that for the right things apart from getting creatively nasty in bed.
Lastly, its fucking okay to be a teenager, a young 20-30 something person who's alone, don't let the society pressure you into stepping out your zen bubble of solitude, Its fucking okay to want to be all alone till a point where you do find a person you can be codependent with. Just build up on healthy relationships with people, sleep around, or surround yourselves with people who'd make you become a better version of you, than people who would anchor you down and be that dead weight that kills you and everything around you, try to be mindful of times you become that person and make sure you either leave or get better at things than hiding behind denial. Thats my two cents about this.
P.S not feeling like posting a picture with this one but ill just add a random unrelated picture anyway.
