Last Thursday during my on-field program at work, a colleague got me angry. Because of that, i ignored her for the rest of the day as i don’t want to complicate things.
When I got home, I realised I may have taken it more personally and decided to make peace with her, the next day, which was Friday.
Since I don’t do this often, I thought of ways I could approach her to resolve the issue, So I don’t regret doing so.
I had many thoughts and I was sure one of them will come into play.
I thought of both the good and bad ending. The bad ending gave me negative emotions.
On Friday, I got to work before her, this i didn’t thought of, as she always before me.
I sat, buried my head into my phone, reading a novel when she entered the office and called my name.
Ayo good morning, with a smile. From that reaction, it’s obvious she has pushed away all what happened yesterday behind her and she wants to start the new day on a new page.
I responded equally with a positive response and the day went good between us.
In my wildest imagination, i never thought we would resolve it with much ease.
This means, my overthinking of the situation was a waste.
This is the problem, overthinker have in their daily life.
They think about the past and the future, forgetting that, they don’t have power about it.
They are always lost in thought which makes them unconscious in their daily life.
They operate absent minded and take series of wrong decisions because they aren’t fully present in the Now.
Their minds is wandering in the past about what could have gone right or anticipation of the future. This brings sadness and anxiety to them.
A lot of people think deeply about the future, because they feels if they mind-analyze different options and scenarios, they will be able to do better when this thought scenarios occur.
For example, a guy who wants to approach a lady. He thinks of what possible response the girl would give because of fear of the unknown. He approaches the girl and she gives a different reply to whatever he has thought of.
This throws him off balance, because prior to approaching, he was already anxious about it.
If the girl replied in an expected way, he then reply back what he has made up in his thoughts.
Meanwhile he could have done better if he wasn’t living in his thoughts.
I’m just here to tell you, there is zero flex in overthinking.
I see a lot of people who are quick to call themselves over-thinkers like it’s a trophy or it makes them superhuman. For me i think it’s a coping mechanism for depression and lot more.
Do you know when you overthink, your mind is disturb and you become less creative? Well if you don’t know, now you do.
Stop thinking about the past and the future.
Let your mind be present in what you do now so you can give it your best.
Overthinking doesn’t solve anything.