I must say this before I start writing, I'm happy I can share my weakness because what's actually weakness is seen in a lot of youth nowadays and they tend to overcome that weakness by hurting many people which is wrong. Have tried to talk to my close friend and a few people but they do not get it. So I'm happy I can share it here and maybe one person can learn from it.
My weakness happens to be my heart, the way I trust people or let people into my life, and this is not about my partner even the ones that we are just friends.
I'm sure these things happens to most of us, growing up I saw a lot of women go through pain in their relationships, I mean married couples. It happened to my mom so because of that, I build up this mindset to treat every lady I met with care, show true love, and always be there for them which I feel is normal but my understanding was far different from the ladies have been in relationships with.
The relationship is usually good and it gets to a point they start acting up, I'm always thinking if what am I doing was wrong?
Sometimes I ask myself if I met someone who is there for me financially, and physically, someone who gives me good advice and has a plan for the future that includes me and is loyal to me, why should I act up?
The most surprising part of this is even the ones that come to ask for my hand in a relationship, they later start acting up and I'm not saying am a saint but my good heart made me fall a lot of victims The ones that we are just friends and sometimes I get pissed off and feel like I'm going to change to be heartless, treat people like thrash, be the karma myself. I thought of it, how does that help me get better? why should I be hurting others just because someone did, and at the same time how do I not hurt myself?
I could remember a particular lady I met when I was going through a breakup and she too was having the same issue, we talked and I could sense the feeling was there but at the same time I noticed this girl was still in love with her ex who happens to have hurt her different times, so I cut my feelings for her and the day she came out to me and said she thought of taking revenge on me because of what she has gone through in her past relationship but my good heart could not let her hurt me. At that point, I understand that it wasn't her talking but God trying to pass a message to me why should I expect people to treat me the same way I do? That was when I understand that it's only God who rewards you for your goodwill.
What I have always seen as my weakness becomes my strength instantly and much stronger than before. So after that anyone I met be it relationship or friendship, I just treat them right and expect them to leave, the only time they surprise me is when they act good back.
Moral lesson: Always expect the worst from the people that you give your all.
Thanks for taking time to read this and I hope you learn something from it
