Oh yes, for me it took a long time to see beyond deceitful sweet words and promises as I often looked at the situation with (too much) hope. Also when you are still wounded emotionally you tend to look beyond the facts and hope. Although it is harsh it is better to look at actions and realize you must leave that hope to die because if you do not people will continue to deceit and lie to you. It was painful to realize the true nature of some people. I have put it in my past and I know that I will meet good people from now on because I have grown a lot and I am no longer naïve to believe everything people promise to me. Looking at actions cuts a lot of time and saves me from unnecessary pain.
Thank you for your kind words of wisdom🤗