When I have my walks in nature it is usually in order to disconnect from everything that has happened during the week. I find myself craving and yearning for more time alone in the woods. As I come back to the urban life I have difficulty to adapt to the noises, to the crowds. If I could, I would spend most of my time in the forest and never come back to town. I would probably join the hippie club of those who love offgrid life, living a free and peaceful life away from the world . Maybe it sounds like I am a solitary weird antisocial person. Sometimes I am. Call me MaryTheHermit. Often I find myself happy to be alone rather than having shallow superficial human interactions which cause me social fatigue. I crave authenticity and real presence which is harder to come across nowadays...
Admiring nature I find myself becoming still. I pause. I reflect.
I saw light hitting a leaf. I thought about humans. How much do we see from what people show us?
How much do we reveal our soul to the other person?
You see, when you take a leaf and look at it you may think you see everything. But if light hits it from the back you get a different perspective. You see the details, the little veins, the patterns . Is that leaf more than meets the eye? Is it the same with us, humans?
I wondered about my own soul. I thought with sadness that I rarely felt truly seen or understood by my partners or friends or family. I am aware that we all have our inner walls but has it happened to you to tear those walls and yet have no one interested in looking? I wondered how much from what was unsaid or unseen was understood when it was about me.
Picking up the unsaid is maybe the most important caring gesture someone could make. It is a sort of emotional intelligence and higher empathy which proves a superior understanding of the matters of the heart. People can talk with you for years and still never give you access to their soul while you can talk with someone for a little while and feel that intimate connection . You feel it although you can't explain it. It is there although you can't see it.
I feel that successful loving marriages are build on the pillars of the unseen, of the unsaid. While your lover talks to you you can feel the unsaid, you can see beyond the mask, you can have empathy and genuinely search to understand the soul sitting next to you. When people no longer feel love they are not interested in making love. They are interested in being right. The power battle fuels the ego and the paper is just a forgotten memory of what love used to be.
There would be so much more love if people would pick up on the unseen. Then they would realize that harming the other means harming yourself hence the remorse after causing pain intentionally to someone with bad words, actions or passivity.
They would realize that we are souls trying to have a journey on this Planet in a quest for love and growth.
We heal through love and understanding.
The old couples who still hold hands and kiss each other like in their 20's have understood this. Don't you smile when you see them? Don't they give you hope that someday you will hold hands too with your older love? Don't they make you see the unseen....?
Have a great day and toodle loo!
