Sometimes last year, I had a conversation with a friend who runs a small charity organisation, and claimed to make sure that he makes the children at charity homes feel loved and truly cared for. Then I asked him, people have been doing this long before you got the vision, but most of these children still do not feel that true affection, what do you think you're doing differently? His answer to my question got me thinking about those children for days. I'll coat some of the things he said.
"Do you know that most of those children at the charity homes sometimes get scared to come out when people come to give them things"
"More like they were forced, most people go to charity homes with goods to share with the obvious expressions and attitudes that makes the children feel less important and less privileged."
"Also , the guardains of charity homes most times do not give the children the things that were brought by people for the children. They give the children peanuts and share the rest amongst themselves"
These answers cracked me up as I imagined how those children are getting to survive in that situation, I also felt disappointed in both the people who bring things not because they actually care, but to chase publicity and the dishonest guardians who share those things amongst themselves and take them home to their families, leaving the children with close to nothing.
Then he continued, telling me what he and his teammates were doing differently. Aside the foods, snacks and primally needs for those children, they also take things like books, pencils, paints, brushes and all other thing that one came get creative with to charity homes.
When they get there, after giving them foods, snacks and every other thing they came with, he and his team stays back to teach the children how to read, write, draw, and many more. They also read poems and tell the children amazing stories which makes them lighten up at the end of the day.
Usually, when they visit charity homes for the first time, the children were always timid and unhappy to free up and associate because they weren't used to it. Many people had come in the past to give them goods and goodies but none had ever taken the time to know the children and relate with them truelly.
After the first visit, every other time they visitee the charity home, the children were always happy to have them back, and never wanted them to leave. He also discussed how most of those children are very talented and bright but do not have the opportunity to express themselves and their level of creativity, these gives them low self-esteem.
Trust me, there is a clear difference between someone who gives and the one who gives cheerfully. Giving has to come from your heart and not your hands. Giving from your heart is giving willingly while otherwise is giving grudgenly .
To conclude, I'll leave you with this"The size of your heart while giving is more important than the size of what you're giving"
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