The idea of fixing a marriageable age range, for example, saying someone can only marry a person who is not more than ten years older or younger, sounds like a way to keep things balanced. At first glance, it may help prevent situations where very young people marry someone old enough to be their parent, which often brings power and control issues.
In that sense, such a rule could protect younger people from being taken advantage of and encourage couples to have more in common in terms of maturity and life stage.
But when you think deeper, it may cause more harm than good. Marriage is not just about age; it鈥檚 about love, understanding, respect, and shared values. Some couples with big age differences still build healthy and happy marriages, while others close in age may struggle.
But come to think of it, who even came up with this age bracket thing? Because currently it looks as if there is a gender war going on, anywhere you turn, if you reach this age and you are not married, then you can't get married again, or it will be very difficult to find a good spouse because you might settle with what you can't explain. I think everybody should marry at an age where they feel they are mature enough to handle life in full.
Putting an age bracket on marriage will affect so many people, and there will be plenty of buried dreams, ambitions, and hurried lives. Imagine saying as a woman you must marry before 25, which is the time most females this days are figuring their lives out because of one reason or the other. Yes, early marriage is good, but for those who are ready, not those who are not.
My cousin is figuring her life out right now because her mother told her that she must get married before she turns 25 years old, or else she will make life very difficult for her. She was afraid of her mother, and she broke up with who she was dating and started looking for an older guy to date. Well, she finally got married, but she keeps regretting it, and now the mother is sorry, but she is the one passing through hell.
It's the same mother that is stopping her from coming out until she almost died; that is when she left her children and ran out. She is starting her life afresh; luckily for her, she finished high school before getting married. What's the point I'm trying to make? She wasn't ready, but because of the age bracket, she got married but was unfulfilled.
I believe wherever you find love, happiness, and someone that understands you, marry, whether he is older by 10 years or 20, as long as you are not forced. Good luck. Take Regina Daniels, for example. She married an older man, and she is happy even if people think it is pretense. One of the P-Square married an older woman, and his marriage is still strong.
If the law forces people to stay within a strict bracket, many may feel trapped or unfairly judged. It could even push some into hiding their relationships or marrying in secret, yes, because some like their woman or man older. While some prefer them younger.
Age also doesn鈥檛 always reflect maturity. A 49-year-old may still act like a teenager, while a 25-year-old may be more caring and responsible. Putting everyone into the same rule may ignore these differences.
In the end, instead of setting a rigid age bracket, the real focus should be on consent, readiness for marriage, and protecting people from forced or abusive unions. Love works best when it鈥檚 a choice freely made, not something limited by a number.
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