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Privacy has always been an issue, in marriage and outside marriage. This topic is an unending one, it has been on mainstream for years, but it cools down and comes back and even gets more intense than before. privacy between couples is not the issue here the issue is
Trust.
If I trust you enough I can leave and show you everything without bordering about anything. a learned man told me two days back when I went to look for work, that 2013 the head of Boko haram,
Abubakar Shekau called out president Mohammedu Buhari that if only he can come and negotiate, everything will be resolve. Then when he wasn't the president. I ask the man why the man called out Buhari when he is not in power, the man said trust he say millions of people will and can't trust you but there is someone ready to take your cross and clamp the hill with you.
A woman can be insecure of her body with thousands and millions of people but they is one person she can be free with, so the mean issue here is not privacy but trust.
Going through each other's phones is a sign of insecurity and that shows that there is no trust between the partner, if you trust your partner why are you going through their phones, trust is the key that settles all, if you trust your partner then even their phone rang or have a massage in your presence when they aren't around you won't be even border to pick the called, because they is trust between them.
They is this short clip I watched, it was acted but that is exactly what's happening in real life, the man was inside the bathroom batting, he had poured water and ladder on his body, when his phone rang from the bathroom he was telling his wife not to pick the call he ran out butt naked, and when he was running the tiles draws him and he fell only to see that it was his mother calling. You wouldn't be worried if you don't have anything to hide from your partner.
The insecurity comes when you are not faithful to your vows; to love, respect and treat them as if it was you.Then you don't have any issue, about leaving your phone with them or going through it.
Most times people are insecure for no reason, your partner smile at someone then they have something between them, when they talk to the opposite sex is an issue, and this point is mostly found in men. Before you say am a feminist I'm not,just an advocate of truth. You will hear something like now that we are married, you need to throw away that line before your ex starts calling, and the man will be; all my business are on this sim I just can't change it, what about the lady, doesn't she have business partners that need to call her, the truth remain that if they can trust each other things like that won't even surface.
Finally going through each other's phones won't solve the issue, and if you go through the phone and find out something, are you going to park and leave the house
NO, then what's the essence of going through it, it will only give you pains and in your heart to hate your partner the more, and making the essence of the Union not to be fulfilled, and it will only increase your blood pressure and make you age faster, so to save your health and your life, better avoid it.
So trust is the key, the remedy to all these issues and when we learn to trust one another, if only we achieved that, then we wouldn't be discussing this.
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