Just a few days back, I was on a call with a dear friend when she mentioned something that didn't quite sit right with me.
I don't recall what I said or what it was that led to that topic of conversation, but she implied that I did not keep to my promises. She cited two occasions when I had failed to live up to promises that I made to her. While she was making jokes about it and laughing, I did not. I could not cause I felt very bad. It was not in my character to do such. Frankly, I try to not even ever make promises. I steer clear of anything that would put me in such a situation. Or better yet, I don't use the words, "i promise."
For my friend, on both occasions, I had told her that I would join her to house hunt when she was ready and also to clean the place when we found one. And it didn't happen. At least not in the way that was normal. Her idea of house hunting was weird to me. People use house-agents or friends or some kind of i-know-who. In her case, she wanted us to walk the streets of the city, which doesn't make no sense. But that wasn't just it. She never told me it was time to go check out houses even for a day. I couldn't be any more ready than she could.
On the other occasion, she called me up one morning to come out saying she was going to clean her new house, which I never knew she had gotten. Not to mention that she gave me no prior notice before then. I could just have gotten up and found my way to her, but on that day, I had errands to run, and I pleaded with her that she should let us go do the cleaning the next day. But of course, she refused. My hands were tied, and I couldn't plead further nor do anything else.
I didn't know that she helf it up for me as promises broken. To me, I hadn't made any promises, but I did feel bad that she assumed that I did, may have taken my words for it, and gotten disappointed. I know hpw that feels. Yet, I feel like I wasn't at fault, or maybe partly, I was.
Also, I think that people are bound to make and break promises. In many instances, when people don't make do their promises, it isn't cause they didn't want to, but often cause circumstance -some of which may be beyond their controls- have affected them. Just like in both cases of mine, which I explained above. I had in mind to do what I wanted, but other plans lay before me, which were equally pressing(even more). Promises might just be mere word-of-mouth but i do take them seriously just as is said that people should be held by their words. But we're humans and as such are not incapable of going back on our words.
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