You aren't dating the girl
you are dating her group of friends.

And that 40yo thinks of herself as just as deserving of a boyfriend as a 20-30 yo.

What really irks me is that women really do not seem to want the real stuff.
As in, they say the want an intelligent man, but what they really want is a man that will bring home more money. They have very little actual ability to tell if a guy is intelligent.

Same with actual money.
You could be retired, but when she hears you do not have a job that pays 6 figures, you are in the same category as a homeless guy.

And, women really seem to view leasing, or getting a 60 month loan is the same as purchasing a car outright. She has the car, now, that is all that matters. It doesn't matter, to her, if the money came from her hard work, or daddy, or the bank, or her boyfriend.