Dating nowadays has been made so easy, yet we are struggling more than ever to find ‘true love’.
How so?
Tinder, a free location-based mobile dating app that has conquered the world, makes it possible to get a date without even leaving your bedroom, while lying on your bed wearing ugly sweatpants that are only to be worn between closed four wall out of sight of others. Swiping right, left, left…left, right. And it’s a match! After exchanging few lame pickup lines, who is who, where from, yada-yada-yada, soon enough you have a date set to meet each other for the first time.
Or maybe your conversation will start with: “Hey, you are hot! Sex?” And even then most likely the last sentences were misspelled, like you are was just written as ur. Happens right! Never the less, using Tinder, I can guarantee that you will find all types of people. One night stand seekers or how they call it now: fun seekers, also people who have no idea why they are on Tinder. Maybe just to browse the catalogue! Some days you will find the catalogue really unappealing and ugly, some days you will find it quite decent with few pretty pictures popping up here and there. And if you are lucky enough, you soon meet the pretty pictures in real life. But I can also guarantee that there are many of us on Tinder trying to find love and affection. And there are many out there!
So here is my question. Is Tinder a right place to look for love? Before we answer that question, I would like to bring out some of the interesting facts, if you may call them so, that I have come to realise about this widely used “love” application.
Tinder comes and goes in waves. You will create Tinder profile and for the first few days or even weeks you go crazy! You are swiping right and left like there is no tomorrow. It becomes your addiction. You promise that you will only be on Tinder for 10-15 minutes and soon enough without even realising you have been looking at the catalogue for hours. And then you will get a Tinder rehab as you forget about it because you are busy living the real life. And then again Tinder wave comes, swallows you and you are back on the dating app sharing likes and dislikes like you are a freaking “ Queen or King of Likes”.
The pictures people use on Tinder will most likely tell you the personality or what is this person looking for. I can comment it from a female point of view. Here we go. I know that there can never be too many pictures of naked abs, but on Tinder there are WAY TOO MANY abs pictures. Sometimes guys do not even show their face and just the abs. I will be honest, I swipe to the left right away because I am quite convinced that people with pictures like that have only sex in mind or they are so empty inside that they do not even have anything interesting to post about their life as they spend most of the time in the gym pumping those abs to compensate for their lack of self confidence. I might be wrong, and you may have your own opinion, but that is how I see things.
Then there are people who do not put pictures or put fake pictures of celebrities. Why? Most likely they are in a relationship and are there just to “look”. It’s like a cat walking around the hot bowl of soup. Cat would really like to lick the bowl, but it is too hot. So close but yet so unreachable. Or maybe those people without pictures or with fake ones just do not find themselves attractive enough? Or maybe they are a serial-stalkers? Whatever is the reason, the chances to get a match is relatively lower. Of course not in this case if you put some hot pictures of Zack Efron on your profile and the person who swipes right does not know who this hottie is. Chances of that happening are close to zero.. come one..who does not know who Zack Efron is! But if you find those girls then reality is that you will have to meet face to face eventually if you want to have action in real life. But if you are happy with cyber-love/sex, then good for you mate!
Pick-up lines! Yes, they are so important! A little tip for you though. If you want to impress a girl, get your grammar right. But also shine with your pick-up lines! So gone are those days when “How are you?” would get the work done. Or just “Hey!” You have to be original and make girls laugh. I have had some really original ones. I’ll try to remember a good one (in a good or bad way - you decide).
A. Are you cold?
B. No, why?
A. Because I am and you are so hot that I would want to wear you on top of me right now.
Or sometimes you will get a random question without even a hello. Like: what is the downside of having a bunny? Instant love right?
Tinder is definitely fun, I can assure you that. I have had my own share of fun on Tinder. And every time before you meet a person, it’s like a Christmas in July, October, September, you name it. Just those minutes before you meet the person from Tinder, it reminds the anticipation you have before opening your Christmas presents. It can be either exactly what you wanted or you will be disappointed as you did not get what you wanted or were promised to have. The second option is most likely to occur.
But there are exceptions! I am a witness of that. I know many couples who have found love on Tinder and they are together and happily ever married and bla-bla-bla. So it can happen. But it’s like with any other relationship: if you have the chemistry, then you have to work on it.
When I told my mum, who is actually quite conservative, that I have a date with a guy from Tinder, she was shocked. Of course after I explained to her what Tinder was. But she forbid me to go out with a guy I did not know. Being me, I could care less what she said, but for the fun of it I asked her that how is that any different from meeting a random guy on the street, who will ask you out for a coffee. Exactly! It is not that much different. You don’t know the guy no matter how you meet him. Yes, on the street you can assess the the looks of the person, but so can you do it if you meet a person through Tinder, it’s just much more exciting. Chrissy present remember! And if you do not like what you will get, then I think there is some kind of unwritten Tinder courtesy that says: if you are not pleased, you can leave. And if such courtesy does not exist, then people: we need one! (haha)
Nowadays it is hard to find a true love. Tinder has made it easy to meet people, but at the same time it does not guarantee that the person you met will stay with you as once something is wrong in the relationship, it’s so easy to find a new one. Surprise, surprise, through Tinder of course! When in the old days people fixed what was broken, then now people just get a new one. It’s easier like that. And the explanation is: YOLO, why waste time! Some people change the relationships like socks. We have just so many choices that staying loyal is complicated. I am not trying to find excuses or make it seem like it’s normal, as it’s not, but this is the world we are living in.
So to answer the question if you can find love on Tinder, I would say yes! The same way you can find love anywhere: library, supermarket, club (or like Ed Sheeran would say: bar), gym, on the street… If you’ll have the chemistry and your personalities match, then voila! Your relationship might be sailing towards something.
The song by Bebe Rexha says it well:
If it’s meant to be, it’ll be, it’ll be!
Alright, gotta go now. Swiping in Tinder waits! No, like for real, haha!
