This is my "One Person"
This will probably end up as a ramble again. However this ramble does have a topic, per usual. This one is the term:
Do you believe in Soulmates?
I do. I believe there is that one person for you. I believe you can mistake a person for that one, or hope that that one person is that one but isn't. I also believe you will eventually find that one person, and if not, that person ended up the same as you - looking for you.
@Snook can attest to how in love I am with my husband. Sure. we are in the newly wed stage still but we had been friends for 10 years before we got married. And it wasn't an easy road for us. By no means. I touched a little on this with my Snake Freewrite.
It was 2007. I was dating my now ex husband at the time. We had gone to a Halloween party that my friends were throwing. I've known these particular friends since 2nd grade. Sadly now we are simply "Facebook" friends but that's a story for another time. Anyway, he and I attended this party. My then best friend was also. For story's sake we will call her... Rose.
So, Rose was also attending this party...
might I add. She was one of those girls that... got around. She didn't hide this fact either. Anyway... my now husband, for name sake we'll call him James, was also at this party...single. You can see where I'm going here? I can't say I wasn't attracted to him. The man was, and is, gorgeous. He put all men to shame, including my now ex... for namesake we'll call Chris. Chris was nothing to look at but James... good God... I'm getting off track.
I told her not to, to be honest I just didn't want her to have him. I honestly wanted him but I was dating Chris at the time and wasn't a cheater and he was good to me...at the time.. so I wasn't willing to just simply break up with him... whatever right? Wrong. James lived 2 hours away from us, but she still pursued him. Oh yes, Rose didn't give up on a chase. She cornered him.. and
During this time Chris and I had moved along in our relationship, got engaged and in 2010 got married. A year later James and Rose got married. We were all friends. I put my feelings aside, and I honestly forgot them. To this day I'm not sure he knows how I felt about him when I first met him, or during our friendship. It was completely platonic.
She loved attention and didn't accept it from just one man. That one man could never give enough... she only knew how to take... and there was never enough to take. So she found it elsewhere. This put a strain on our friendship but I tried to look past it, it wasn't my place. Don't get me wrong, I said my peace with her, but she didn't hear it, and I was stuck in the middle. He was an amazing husband and father, I envied it really, I won't get into my relationship. But I loved him... pure and simple. He was my best friends husband, and my best guy friend. That's all he was at that time. Nothing more. Trust me on this.
She thought she wasn't getting enough so she and James parted ways. About a year later I caught my husband cheating on me. While going through my divorce I found out my "best friend" Rose was not only looking elsewhere for attention but found it with my soon to be ex husband.
Anyway...
She said she made the mistake and wouldn't think of doing something like that again. I stupidly believed her. Little did I know she wanted me for my apartment. She was living with her parents and had no plans of moving out but she surly couldn't bring home men to her parents and certainly not with a kid in the house. No... that was my last straw with her. I kicked everyone out, it was supposed to be a girls night. It ended with me alone in the my apartment.
I refused. I was friends with his ex after all. But he continued asking and I eventually broke down. One dinner wouldn't hurt right? But after dinner, he took me home and we kissed. There was no going back after that. I was his...
I won't go into too much more because this is horribly long as it is and my husband (eek!) will be getting home soon so I want to spend time with him but to sum up, we are soulmates. What we have been through brought us to where we are today. What we have been through just to simply be together... If that's not soulmates. I don't know what is.
Thanks for reading!
@Bleedinheart