It was just too much on the part of my elder sister. Looking at their married life, I would feel so excited and wanted by all means to take their lead, no matter the situation. They were living so fine and free from quarrels. I have lived with them for a few months and saw the uniqueness in their relationship.
During my younger age, and when I had not decided on whom to marry, I had always put this notion of marrying someone who takes the character of my sister's husband. He's so calm and nice. He's easy-going and without noise. Anytime my sister asks for something from him, he does give it to her immediately and without complaining.
There was a time when I was about to write my GCE (O-level examination), my friend and I had to register for the exam, and we were posted to the town where my sister resides. My friend and I had to stay at my sister's house after getting permission from my sister. She agreed to take her in after discussing it with her husband (according to her). With our stay right there, there aren't any form of issues. My friend was so excited to stay at my sister's house. After a month, we left. She later called me to thank my sister for allowing her in and for taking care of her feeding.
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When I got home, I was comfortable but thinking all my life, asking God to grant me a husband who cannot give me issues just like my sister's. It was not too long while praying to God, I heard my sister's voice. She was crying bitterly. With the look on her face, I knew something was not fine. My parents sat her down just to ask her what happened, but her cry supersedes her complaints.
Within me was already thinking something that must have caused her tears. “Would it be that someone did something to put her into this condition?” I was just thinking of the impossible.
She sat crying with a lot of tears rolling down her face. I drifted close to her and consoled her just to at least stop the cry and explain what had happened or gone wrong.
After a few moments, her cry subsided, and she started explaining clearly. She said her husband was talking to her in a rude way, even though she was calm with him. I knew my sister quite well and the way she behaved. She's the calm type and the one without trouble. But her husband, I only knew him and saw a better character in him during the days I had stayed with them.
As my sister was complaining, I had to interrupt her statement just to defend her husband. “He's a calm person like you. I can testify to the days I spent with you guys; even my friend always appreciated what your husband did for us. She was also a witness”, I said childishly without understanding the fact that a lot was going on underground, I knew nothing about. My mum kept me silent, and I was shocked by my sister's complaints.
My dad had to put a call across to my sister's husband and ask him to come immediately, but what I was not thinking about happened over the phone. “Please, keep your daughter, I'm tired of her”, my dad put his phone on speaker, and we were all hearing their conversation. My sister's husband could not allow my dad to talk before saying that nonsense to my dad. I could not believe my eyes. I wiped my face just to be sure I was not dreaming.
I asked my sister, “Has he always been like this before?” She gave me a reply that shocked me deeply. “You only know him from a distance. I'm the one with him and have always taken his nonsense. He pretends when my family is with me, and shows his true colours when I'm alone with him.” This gave me a double shock of my life. But then I had never once observed his kind of person. I had to believe all that my sister was saying after hearing his conversation with my dad. This showed that he's a rude type and a green snake under the green grass.
Knowing someone from a distance is not enough to show the true nature of that person. I knew him from a distance, but my system knew him in total. Since that day, I have totally changed the nature of my prayer. I asked for a better man, not like my sister's husband.
