So today I was with some friends, we were just talking about random stuffs and someone made mention of enough, and what prompt to that was that we're talking of how often one can be good to people, how one can be of help to people and how one can set boundaries while doing those stuffs in order not to look stupid.
Now a lot of people have different ways of handling things and so you can't speak for everyone in this case. When enough is enough for you can never be enough for the other person, And so I will say it's a personal kind of stuff.
While we were discussing, this my friend said she really helped a lot of people and even go to the extent of even borrowing to help. and from everything she said, she was doing it for the wrong reasons. like she was doing it for people to see the good in her, for people to love her, for people to say this girl is good not for the right reasons and that's why she got so hot because she's not really doing them freely but rather trying so hard to please people that doesn't even care.
The funny part is that I went to pay her a visit and there is this her Street people she called one of them her Aunt. They are like kind of controlling her, telling her what to do even her own dresses they tell her what to wear and not, I'm like really?
And the painful truth is that she's trying so hard to do them and not being herself. I know how bad and hard it is trying to do things the way people want and not the way you want. More like living in someone else's life while you have your own full life to deal with ahead of you. To me, It's really stressful!!!
So the first day I went to her house this lady she called her aunt was trying to ask my friend who I am and my friend told her that I'm her younger sister, actually she's my Senior with different of 5 years but I'm like kind of acting the elder sister role lol. And so the lady was asking my friend if I'm a good girl, I was like what does she mean by if I'm a good girl? I don't know if she was asking because of my lashes but the question was really not nice.
She didn't even try treating me like my friend ,Everyone is different you can't treat everyone the same, I respect myself I respect you and so you should respect yourself as well.
So this my friend and also my sister was asking me what she should do, that she's so tired doing things for people, moving around for people and not taking a second to watch out for her own self.
And so I was trying to let her know that it's all about her and people matters too.
Watching out for yourself doesn't necessarily mean you shouldn't care about other people or help people, but then you have to think about yourself too because that's all you've got. I was trying to let her know that it's okay for people to misinterpret her and totally okay for a new chance for her to change. she can actually go for anything she wants but then still taking advice from elderly people still not a bad idea at all. she was so thankful and she was so happy and relieved... I was so happy to be of help.
"she knew that enough was really enough for her at that very moment"
she was trying to remind me of what happened that time I was really surprised because it's kind of a while and it wasn't even in my mind like I totally forgot about it that something like that has happened before lol...
Well that is just a little story though but when is enough really enough for you in anything you are doing or passing through?
It's very important to look out for yourself always. And another thing is that, it's how you treat and care for yourself people will accept and take you pretty serious in life.. when you make them understand that you are a joke, definitely they are going to take you has you joke. But if you set your standards, be good to people and know what you're doing then definitely that respect will come naturally without stress, without Force.
So is left for you to decide when enough is enough and take a step at a time. You can change anytime any day though people might not get used to it at the beginning seeing you change but as Time goes On trust me they will learn to adapt to that part of you and you wouldn't stress anymore!!!
So when is enough really enough for you?
