A man calling me baby gets me losing my mind especially when I’m not in a relationship with another man at that moment.
I met Michael on one of the numerous making money group chats which I joined on WhatsApp. After he sent me a private message asking how I was able to make money from a website, we became friends.
“We should link up someday to get to know each other better,” nothing felt better than the moment when Michael asked us to link up.
“Sure. We’d pick a date and a venue where we would link up,” no lady should make a man feel like she really wants to see him so she won’t get hurt. I sticked to these words that Aunty Mary told my friends and I in her room when she was lecturing us about men.
Luckily, I just bought a red sexy gown and a slippers that matches the color. I prepared my dress for the date even though I didn’t know the exact day we’ll be seeing.
Finally, Michael and I agreed where and when we’ll meet. It’s a barrack and one of the biggest in Lagos state.
I got dressed up, found my way to the barrack and while other soldiers were being harsh at those who wanted to enter the barracks, I experienced an otherwise approach.
“Hello pretty lady. Who do you seek for? You look very beautiful,” he held my hands and took me to his office until the person I came to see comes for me.
“Wow, you look so beautiful. You ain’t even photogenic,” Michael held my hands and thanked the soldier who took care of me. He’s a soldier as well so they had a way of thanking each other.
We got into his apartment and chatted for hours, cooked, saw two movies and I even slept off at his place. That’s to show how comfortable I was around him.
“Baby, have you gotten home?” I received Michael’s text on WhatsApp. I wasn’t really surprised seeing him call me baby because he already told me how beautiful I looked.
“If it’s possible to make you my wife, I will surely do so,” I counted so much on these worss and went with the flow. That was how Michael became my baby.
We started having more chats, more video calls, more pet names and everything that people in a serious relationship did but nothing that is physically intimate.
Since a girl loves to tell all her friends about her new man or when she falls in love, I did so too. I was madly in love with Michael and maybe he felt the same way too.
Out of love, I changed his name on my phone from Michael to Mine. I think I didn’t think the part where Michael didn’t toast me and said he wanted a relationship with me was necessary. Since he calls me baby, I assumed that we were in a relationship already. He only admired my beauty and also made me realize how beautiful I was and how worthy of his wife I will become but for me, I took it so serious and thought he was my man.
On Valentine’s day, I was expecting myself to wake up to a love text from my supposed man and maybe he will tell me “I love you”. I’ve been dying to hear him say that to me. Instead, he posted a girl on his story.
“Happy Valentine’s baby. You’ve been everything I want in a woman and you’re still all I want. Love you, my Queen,” I think my stomach understood the damage that had just happened to me at that moment. It started to rumble and I ran straight to the toilet to poo.
It’s so funny how I crammed those words up till now.
“What!” I texted Michael because I really wanted to know what that meant. How will Michael post up another girl and tells her he loves her when he knows I’m going to see it.
“How dare you post another girl on your story when you know I can see it? Why have you decided to hurt me,” if anger can be seen in writing, I think you should see my anger. I was boiling while perambulating my room waiting for his response.
“What are you saying? All I’ve done is admire your beauty. I never for once told you that I wanted you to be my woman. I just have a natural likeness for you and that’s why I sometimes call you my baby,” he wrote to me.
Immediately after reading this, my heart became broken. I remember truly that he never asked me to be his girlfriend.
This time, it dawned on me that I’m not in any relationship including the one that I claim to be in.
I apologized because I’m the one who got things all wrong.
Since then, I never got attached to any man who doesn’t directly ask me to be his girlfriend.