Hey everybody!
I had a topic on my mind that was a little more pressing than BuzzSteem today, that I really wanted to talk about.
Why did I leave most of the Discord Chats?
Well, I'll tell ya.
This is a ridiculous two part problem. First and foremost, women are in the extreme minority as it is on Steemit and Dtube. Most of the people in the chat rooms are men, and therefore, it is already unequal. Creating a place where women can be the majority is not divisive.
Secondly, the females are NICE ENOUGH not to blow the lid off of EXTREMELY INAPPROPRIATE comments they have received in private chat, but rather civilly discuss them amongst those that they know they won't be judged by. I have attempted to discuss this inappropriateness with other men, hoping to find allies and was given the good ole boys club response of "men will be men."
Newsflash for any men reading this: It's NOT ok to tell someone in private chat that you will assist them with a technical question if, and only if, they "SEND YOU BOOBIE PICS". Firstly, we are God Damn adults, and they are breasts, not boobies. Secondly, REALLY.....I mean...... REALLY? Oh and it is also not appropriate to tell them everything you have envisioned doing to them in your spank bank. WHY???? It's like sending a textual dick pic. Why do men think women want to see that? Ahhhh Steemit, the utopian paradise I've always dreamed of!
Being part of some of the Dtube Discord channels, and being private messaged on the side, is much akin to playing A Game of Thrones. I even got roped into it. (Who is talking about who? Who is doing what? Who is getting what upvote? Are people after me? And on...and on....and on....)
Ya know where I never experienced that drama? In the Steemit comments. Do you know why? Because it's transparent, and most people don't say gross things or bully you when other people can see it. Discord's privacy allows for abuse and drama.
The WHOLE POINT of Steemit and Dtube, the thing that sets it aside as a social media, is the fact that you get paid. Why would you spend the whole day in a place where you don't get paid anything? I know, I know, relationships, bonds, etc. Do you know that that's possible to do, even just using Steemit, and I dunno, watching people's videos and getting to know who they are through that?
My advice to you is to analyze the amount of time you have been spending on the Discord and try to cut back even just a little! I have felt much better since, and think you will too!
Catch ya later!
-Beth
