Date night and interest

This morning I met a friend for breakfast which didn't go at all like I expected.

Almost immediately after we greeted, sat down and ordered she started talking all in a rush as if not doing so would steal away her courage. She's losing interest in her husband, lost interest is probably more accurate, and she's thinking of asking him for a divorce which I think will totally devastate the poor man.

She cried a few times and I joined her, and we talked for a long while.

When I left for home I thought how tragic her situation was and difficult things will be but there was a glimmer of hope as she had decided to talk to her husband and communicate how she felt.

I couldn't help but think of my own situation and felt so grateful to have my boyfriend by my side, a man who works to keep me very interested and is single-mindedly focused on me in return and who is a real man in every sense of it. That doesn't come easily though, it comes through effort, understanding, being flexible, honest, passionate, having a sense of humor and adventure, respect, manners and spontaneity and many other things including communication. Having a good relationship and interest in each other takes effort, but it is worth that effort.

When I arrived home my boyfriend was doing man-stuff in his workshop and I left him to it but later I told him what had happened and we talked about ourselves from when we first met, started dating, learning each other and falling in love and so many other things that have combined to place us where we are today; side by side, together, interested in each other and strongly bonded.

He asked me on a date soon after so I excused myself to go and get ready.

I decided on something a little more dressy than the occasion required but I felt like making that effort because the way we'd talked, the memories, reminded me of dating the man previously and how I always made sure he wouldn't be able to take his eyes off me; it always worked and he still brings it up. I like that about him.

For the record, we had a lovely date. He said he was under dressed but that man in blue jeans, boots and a shirt is all I need and I told him so leaning forward just enough at the same time that he could fully appreciate my efforts to keep his focus. And he did.

Here's another Saturday Selections installment, one of a series of posts in which I share some music I've been listening to. I know you won't like everything I select and that's ok, it's my selection after all.

If you like music and want to share some with the rest of us you're free to do so and maybe you'll even help someone find some music they haven't already discovered. If you wish to use the #saturdayselections tag that's ok too, it's a free space to do as you wish.