Each couple creates a family in order to become happy. But not at all it turns out. The daily routine eats up the best dreams and plans, there is not enough time for anything. And at some point we understand that everything went somehow wrong and all the members of the family live each by themselves. About how to make our family stronger and more friendly with us shared our reader:
Take for yourself the rule not only to take on the general family council all the important decisions, but also to draw up a plan. For example, what you want to do before the end of the year. You will say, why take family decisions at all? Each of us has a lot of things to do and very little time, and usually all decisions taken are forgotten in less than a month. So why do you need this?
In fact, the point is that we need to be more focused. We should focus on our goals and priorities from time to time. This is easier to do with a plan in front of the eyes, a list of what we want to do. If you take the time to purposefully define your family goals and priorities, this will help you to include in your family activities what is important to you.
Everyone must realize what is important to him. There are moments specific to your family, there are also more global ones that will be useful for almost everyone. In any case, it would be nice if you realized what exactly is important for your family. What exactly is paramount. And most importantly, what can you do to change something for the better. Little is to realize that your family has few common interests, you must try to create them.
Numerous specialists talk about how important it is to arrange family dinners and discuss the past day. Yes, it's important, but it's often easier said than done. The reality of our life is that the schedule of work is unpredictable, and school assignments are not done on time. Classic dinner with this often simply does not work. The baby is trying to feed early, the high school student is hanging on the lessons, and the parents can return completely at all. What to do? Abandon the idea as such? I think that it's best not to focus on the advice of specialists, but simply to understand that the main thing is not dinner. The main thing is time spent together. Perhaps for your family this time may be breakfast? At breakfast, it is also well discussed both yesterday and plans for the current. You can eat together if you work near home. Just need to understand what to eat with your family - it's more than just a meal. It is also to share emotions, mood.
Helping those who have worse than you - a good experience. Your children see. That in the world there are not only bright sides, but at the same time you show them that not everything is so bad. You can always help someone. You can go to the nearest church and find out what kind of families in the region need help and which one. And then share things or toys, or buy some extra food in the store. You can collect things for an orphanage or nursing home. Even give away unnecessary books to the library. It will bring your family together, help you better appreciate what you have. It is much better to show the children themselves what is good than to say it a hundred times in words and not do anything.
Another unobvious thing. Active lifestyle brings a lot of health benefits and is an excellent way to get rid of stress. But how often are you actually active together, like a family? If your answer is quite often, then you're done! When you watch your health and lead a sportive lifestyle - you set an excellent example for your children and at the same time get a lot of fun!
If you can remember a million times when your children played, but do not remember when they last got up and ran with them, then add this item to your list of things that you should change. When children grow up, you can run together, participate in some family competitions, if they are held in your city, even just play football or volleyball together more often! This is important, since such activities change the way of life and habits and unite the family. And time does not really take much. Even if you just take the rule of doing together in the morning charging, this will be a wonderful start!
It is very important to spend time together without bumping into the screens of phones or tablets. If your children are old enough to have their own gadgets, then probably in your family there are rules that limit their use. But do you have a similar rule for adults?
Of course, you yourself must understand what exactly is required in your case. Naturally, there should always be an opportunity for emergency communication. However, you can start, for example, by turning off all such devices during lunch. It is impossible to do everything. But you have to start somewhere!
It is important to save not because you do not have enough money. It is important to spend money competently so that children get used to competently treat money. Even if you earn enough to buy everything you want, your children should not think that money appears on their own. Well, if you do not have so much income, it is much calmer to have some insurance amount in case of unforeseen circumstances or big purchases. This is a very important lesson for children. Set aside money for what you need and do not forget to explain to children what you are doing and why. Ideas of abstract savings in young children will not find a response, but they will perfectly understand that you need to save money, for example, for a family vacation at sea. At the same time it will save your nerves in the toy store. As a rule, if you remind a zakapriznchavshemu child, about the purpose, which you save, it will remove many requests and moods.
Yes, it's exactly as I said. We often think that a lot of time is ahead and we will all be in time, however, life often makes its own adjustments and now it turns out that our days are crammed to the eyeballs
