Honestly, I’m not married yet, but just imagining this topic made me pause and think deeply. Falling out of love just a year after marriage? That’s tough. Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime journey. So how does love just disappear within such a short time?
As a lady, I know we usually enter relationships with our whole heart. We plan our wedding in our head before he even proposes. We imagine the home, the kids, the laughter, the forever part. So for me to wake up one day, just a year into marriage, and feel no spark, no warmth, no connection anymore. I would feel like something important inside me has died
First, I won’t panic. I’d try to ask myself some honest questions:
Was I ever truly in love with him or was I just in love with the idea of being married?
What changed between then and now?
Is it something we can fix, or has the damage gone too deep?
I believe communication is everything. So my next move would be to talk to him gently but honestly. No need to pretend or sugarcoat things. If I keep quiet, I’ll slowly start building resentment, and that’s worse. I would tell him how I feel, and we’d sit down to trace where things went wrong. Did we stop spending quality time together? Did life become too routine? Did he change or did I?
If there's still some hope, I would suggest couples counseling. I know some people look down on therapy, especially in our African society, but I personally think it's better to fight for something you once cherished than to throw it away just like that. I would give it my best before deciding anything final
However, if we’ve both tried and tried and it’s clear that the love is gone for good, I wouldn’t stay stuck in the marriage just because of fear of what people will say. People will always talk, whether you stay or leave. My peace of mind, happiness, and emotional well-being will always come first
At the end of the day, marriage is not a prison. And I believe it’s better to leave than to stay in a loveless marriage that slowly kills your spirit. But before walking away, I’d be sure I’ve done everything possible to fix it
Marriage is a serious commitment, yes, but love should still be present. Because when love leaves, everything else starts to feel heavy
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