This is something most people do. This is a defensive mechanism usually done unconsciously by people to protect themselves from bad criticism or any bad outcome. This is quite common among all types of people. When people put the blame on others it psychologically makes them feel better making them think that they are not responsible for the mess. But is that a good strategy? Whenever there is a problem, our human brain thinks of ways to either escape from the problem or make sure that we are convinced that the problem is not because of us. This is an escape strategy commonly seen in many human beings.
When a problem is created usually people become insecure and because of that, they think that it will be better to blame someone else than getting caught. We have to agree that we all make mistakes and we have all been into embarrassing situations. But during such situations, it is important that we are also sensible and have proper acceptance for the mess we create. If we are looking for a solution to a problem the first step is that we have to be ready to first accept it as our own problem or hold ourselves accountable for the mess we have created.
This acceptance will help us be clear about the next steps we need to take after creating a mess. If we don't accept our mistake, our mind will continuously try to defend ourselves making the situation even worse. Additionally, we will also be looking for options to dump the blame on someone else and escape.
Just imagine that you are the manager of the team in the office and one of your team members is creating a mess. The team member might blame someone or show resistance towards acceptance but as a manager of the team, you will be held accountable and you have to answer the higher authorities. In such instances, we cannot simply walk away saying that the mess was created by your team member and you are no way related to that and cannot be held responsible. This statement will not be accepted. You have to talk to them about steps to solve the problem and also talk to them about what preventive measures you would be taking to make sure this doesn't happen in the future.
In the above example, even though the manager is not responsible for the mess created by someone in the team, he had no other option to think about a solution or to take preventive measure about this not happening in the future. Every individual who makes a mistake should also have the same mentality. We have to first accept our mistake and also do a self-analysis to see how this type of embarrassing situation can be prevented in the future. Just blaming others and walking away will not help us solve any hurdles in our life.
Some people also have a general habit of criticizing others. This is something that would have been a practice for them throughout their life. That can also be one of the reasons why they don't take the problem on their shoulders but instead throw it on someone else's shoulders. We have to understand that by criticizing others we are not investing a productive time on ourselves to make ourselves better in front of this world. Sometimes criticizing others gives us a great feeling where at situations we might look smarter in front of everyone. But we have to understand that it is a temporary good feeling of happiness that is not going to stay forever with us.
