I have been told I have a very high pain tolerance when It comes to taking shit. The person who told me that worded it in a way that made it look better and even sound like a compliment at the time, but I didn't take it as such. Obviously, as I often do I waved it off and continued with what I was doing at the time, but from time to time my head still goes back to that statement. Could I be a bit more strict here? I find myself asking once in a while.
While having a high pain tolerance can seem like a blessing It can also feel like a curse. Human beings can be very funny creatures. When you give them a finger they can try to take a hand if you're not careful. I sometimes find myself in situations I could have easily avoided if I had a bit of a thicker skin. Then there's also the flip side of things when I don't understand how people can be worked up by something so little. Sometimes it even pisses me off.
This question of when to be stern is something everyone will have different answers to, but as someone who takes shit a lot, I feel like the first clear answer is when boundaries are crossed. No matter how much shit I take there are certain boundaries I hold precious and when they are crossed I can go berserk. So yeah, don't cross them. As long as the boundaries are set from the onset you have the right to be strict towards those who cross them.
Another time is when repeated warnings are ignored. If I warn you about something multiple times, it wouldn't make sense for you to keep doing that. And obviously, if you keep doing it, then it's only fair I stop accepting it from you.
Then there's when you're disrespected. I have figured that even sometimes I take disrespect, but it is not something to be taken lightly. I dislike it with passion. When I am disrespected rest assured unless you apologize I haven't forgiven you.
There are a lot more scenarios where I find myself being strict but I think those fall under the ones I mentioned above.
Being a bit more stoic does have its advantages too. For instance, things people say hardly get to me (unless I care about you of course). And I often use the time I spend not caring about their opinion to do more important things.
So yeah, it is more about finding the balance and knowing when to be stoic and when to be stern. Ever since that statement though, I have learnt though that strength doesn't only lie in what you can take, but in what you can refuse as well.
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