Would you consider yourself an overthinker or pretty laid back when it comes to things? Share with us an event in your life that made you overthink, or tested your ability to be laid back.
Me sometimes and me some other times
Is it possible to be stuck in the in between? There have been times I have found myself being ultra laid back, and there have been times when I have found myself picking bits and pieces, down to the smallest minute detail. At times I find it difficult to even know how I'd react to a scenario. It is either I am nonchalant, or I am overcaring.
Over time I have realized though that it all depends on what exactly the issue is. When I was younger I used to care about everything and it brought me a lot of headaches and stress, but as I have aged I started learning that not everything should be taken with so much seriousness. In fact, the majority of things shouldn't be taken so seriously. And slowly I started scaling down and letting go of a lot of things.
Why am I so serious about being the best at a game that'll probably be obsolete in a couple of years? Binned. Why do I care what some random person I don't even care about thinks about me? Binned. Why do I care so much that other people can do something that I can't do simply because I don't have an interest in it? Binned. Why do I care that someone who isn't going to be helpful towards achieving my vision doesn't understand? Binned. I just started like that and before I knew it, there were not so many things to overthink in life. Especially when you realize that overthinking and worrying and anxiety don't have any effect on the situation and it will even make things worse. Because now you have a shaky hand and won't be able to deal with whatever the situation is with a clear head.
However, I must admit that there have been times when overthinking and overanalyzing have brought to my knowledge some crazy things that I definitely wouldn't have seen with open eyes. I remember vividly this one time when I woke up in the midnight by 4 am with a sudden but very specific thought in my head, and I started putting the pieces together, lo and behold it all came together. I eventually asked the person it involved and they confirmed it was correct. Though it wasn't a situation I was particularly happy about, at least I found out about it.
But then the majority of the time overthinking is nothing but burdening the mind and soul unnecessarily. There have been countless times this has happened to me, but at this moment I can only remember this one time a few years back when I did so poorly on a test. The thoughts that ran through my head that day. From small thoughts like
"damn, I'm getting a bad grade in that course."
to straight up crashing out and going
"Is this how I am going to be successful in life? Am I going to be a failure?"
To say I was stupid then Is an understatement. Eventually, I didn't get the grade I wanted, but it was not because of the test. It was because I wasted time overthinking rather than getting on with it. From then I learned my lesson. No matter this case just relax, being worked up changes nothing. Now I'm a chill guy :)
