You've heard it said that no decision is a decision.
Hidden within indecisiveness is the goal of always being right. As long as we don't
know what we want, we will never be wrong, never make a mistake, and hence we will never be disappointed. We have been programmed since childhood not to make mistakes. By being indecisive we can remain a child.
The moment we decide to take charge our lives is the moment we really leave home. Once we start making decisions for ourselves, we are on our own.
It is safer not to make decisions, to be passive, childish and to take our cue from others.
Making a decision always reveals something about you. Making a decision tells people who you are. And so, making a decision is essentially divulging a great secret.
If your purpose in life is not to reveal who you are, then you will always remain undecided
Another reason for indecisiveness is the FEAR that we may have to give up something. For example, if you want to take a vacation to Hawaii, it means you have to give up going to the Bahamas at the very same time.
To choose one goal means you may have to give up others.
If you decide on a certain way, it means you may have to give up other paths. It means you can’t be everything, do everything and have everything at the same time. It means you can't please everybody.
When you make a choice, you run the risk of rejecting the values of certain people. They may see you as you really are, not the way they want you to be. In other words, not like them.
So by doing nothing, you are able to retain the love and approval of different people whose values contradict each other, and your indecisiveness helps you to avoid trying to reconcile situations that can't possibly be reconciled.
