WHAT'S UP WITH SEX?
One day, in the midst of the late evening talks, in the breeze of the dark with lanterns lit around, she told me about her past and how she feels about her present; she never did feel a shame in her face. She told me about her first stripper boyfriend:
'I fell in deep love with this dude who really suits me. I was 14, and I was so naive. Weeks after we rolled on, we decided visiting ourselves and it was just very normal to me. Later, we couldn't just make it 'only visits' anymore. One noon he came by and suggested peeling off my clothes and that was how we played on'. She narrated.
I couldn't understand, why young people are really crazy about sex. I stood there thinking about this with my mouth opened wide, I looked back at her and asked out of deep curiosity:
'What's up with sex?'
'You really don't want to imagine' she replied.
People are crazy about sex, they talk about it like it's water that quenches a thirst of man. Sex, porn, masturbation. It seems like youths are dying off over this momentary bed frolic, but I can't stop wondering if it's worth it.
Sex is not what you think it is. Most people think sex is all about pleasure and this pleasure is just the problem with them. Sex is just a gateway to a finite pleasure. It's not the key to the love you really should expect of your relationship with your partner. I hope we just see sex as ordinary as it should be. The truth is, blood flows through every part of you and you can't deny it, you have feelings, your emotions are active, and you know it. You're not dead, how then can you survive a caress without developing a sense of libido,...that explains why what you feel is just okay. Everybody feels it just like you. We just differ in the way we keep ourselves.
Sex is necessary but not for anybody outside the courts of marriage. The need for sex arose when the need for multiplication sprung up. If you're not ready to make another being that looks just like you or your partner particularly after solemnisation, sex is strictly not for you. There's really no age by which the commencement of a life of sex is determined, '18+' is not an idea, puberty is not a determinant. Marriage gives you the licence to sex. If you're married, who will write this to you? Carry on with your husband or your wife. You guys may decide to have sex twenty-four-seven, who's got a problem with you as long as you're married. It's just not okay for these unripe idiots we live with these contemporary days to have sex just the way they want while they sell themselves piece by piece.
I know the pains youths feel, I understand the temptations of teenhood, the trials birthed by the romantic movies you got yourself into. I know you might be ashamed of being a virgin still while your friends cannot even number the times their flowers has been stripped of leaves. The Korean movies your friend lent you, I know. You got hot on the way and your mind was dying for just someone to lie with, I understand, but you just have to keep on keeping on; it's worth it anyway. It's worth the struggle for abstinence from sex, perhaps do it for your future, your destiny. You just need to keep your thing, find a way of taming it if needs be. You need to know what your feelings can do to your life. Just save it for your marital partner, try to be at least a little bit responsible. At least a little bit responsible.
'Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge'
Hebrews 13:4
Asoju
