Call me crazy, but I know that there exists a special kind of connection which cannot be broken by anything.
Not everyone is lucky (or unfortunate?) enough to experience it, but if it happens, it happens once in a lifetime and with one particular person. That’s that - you’ve got yourself the mythical “true love”, the central figure of greatest works of art, songs, and historical and fictional stories.
It is not killable by death, separation, arguments, infidelity, time, marriage, distance, boredom, absence of sex, presence of cruelty, or even indifference. It is merciless in its ability to survive everything and go on even when people themselves become spiritually or physically damaged or completely cease to exist.
Once (or if) you experience such love, it will turn your world upside down. It will make you grow through many changes - some painful, some beautiful. It will make you suffer and elevate you to unimaginable heights. It will probably make you want it to stop, but you’ll know it’s ridiculous to even try - like stopping the universe from expanding, time from happening, black hole from consuming.
It’s not easy. Keeping up with it is not an easy task for a weak heart or a susceptible mind.
And if you are unfortunate enough to NOT be able to be with your loved one (for any reason, from their indifference to their physical death), it’s not something that can be “healed” by time, or substituted, or forgotten. It’s not one of those cases where they say you just have to cut ties, give it time, and move on - and eventually find something better. No matter how you cut ties, and wait, and heal, and try, there is no one and nothing “better”, and for that matter... there isn’t anything at all.
This is what it comes down to - without it, there isn’t anything else. It becomes life itself, and death, and everything in between, and without it there is nothing else. You can find it when you are 20 and “lose” it at 25, and you’ll still feel it when you are 80 - and it will be the only thing that ever mattered. It seems to contradict everything - even our hormones and the instinct of self-preservation. It defies gravity. It simply is, and nothing and no one can make it gone.
Considering all this and many other things that I haven’t written about, I am wondering... Maybe it’s good that such an occurrence is rare? Maybe we, people at large, aren’t ready for an intense, mind-blowing, one-of-a-kind feeling and spiritual and physical attachment to one, just One other human being, one and only, unsubstitutable for our whole lifespan?
Because once you meet someone like that, there can be no other. But what if you meet them and then for any reason you cannot be together, and you are very young? It means you’d have to be alone forever. Well, until you get old and die.
What about a family... kids... procreation? The thing is, nature needs us to go on. Our genes and hormones and nervous systems... our biology needs us to go on. How could millions of people go on surviving for ages if they all experienced their true loves but were for some reason unable to pair up and that would be the end of them as suitable pairs for many others?
Maybe that “true love”, the one and only for the entire lifespan, turned out not to be beneficial to us as “organisms” whose main biological task it to survive and multiply.
Most people are heavily ruled by hormones. “Time and distance heals” simply because it gives us a chance to get off the hormonal dependency, hormonal reactions toward that specific person. For some, only two weeks is enough. Others take longer. But most of the time it’s true, time and distance heals... and then a substitute comes, and voila! - we are hooked again.
In rare cases of that one in a lifetime love this doesn’t happen because we are talking about something deeper and stronger than hormones - something that exists on ALL levels of human existence, from our basic organism and its animal-like reactions, our physical matrix to our mind, spirit and soul. No time can heal something that exists throughout and outside of time itself. No distance can help forget something that knows no distances and penetrates space faster than the speed of light.
