In normal parents, children do not cry - Many misfortunes result from this erroneous installation. Even if on a conscious level the parent absolutely agrees that children sometimes cry even from good parents, this does not negate the fact that this belief can act gradually.
For example, what does the mother of a child feel about five years old, if her baby melts in a store because of an unbought toy? Perhaps she will feel guilty that she can not (does not want to) fulfill all the desires of the child, perhaps she will get angry at the child for his "insatiable greed" or "selfishness" or "reluctance to understand". Or maybe she is embarrassed, feeling herself in the center of attention of those around her, who look at her with curiosity and condemnation?
It's hardest to remain calm, although this is usually advised. Let's see what the mother can do to cope with the situation. Will the mother decide whether the child should immediately be silent so as not to subject her to unpleasant experiences or, as they say sometimes, "do not dishonor her in front of people."
She immediately buys everything that the child has asked. But how does it feel then? A kind fairy who can instantly make such a miserable child just a moment happy?
Will refrain from buying, but will still have a desire to "immediately shut up" a screaming child? Then which way will she choose? Earlier it was decided to somehow pinch, for example ... But now everyone already knows that it's not pedagogical, and to apply physical punishments, simply to beat a child, with other people it seems to be indecent.