In Finnish media we've had a big fancy topic going around for a few days now. Nagging and especially women nagging.
And it seems to be mans fault that women nag, because they have to nag (even though it is not fun) because men are not doing things fast enough. Usually this is cleaning, taking the thrash out etc.
One popular opinion has actually been that yes, it is mans fault that women nag. If men would clean up themselves and do things fast enough, there would be no need to nag. Of course not. I hate when a woman tells me to do something and I promise to do it, but she keeps nagging about it every few months!
I've tried to see a point of view which has been far less popular. I've been called names by women because I opened up my thoughts on Facebook, but it's ok.
What if nagging is not (always) because a man doesn't do something, but because the woman wants something. She may want something like... the apartment is clean all the time or that the trash is taken out always straight away. However if the man doesn't agree with these.. he thinks it's ok to clean up in the end of the day or to take trash away the next day? This does not go as the woman wants. The man leaves mess behind and leaves the trash beside the door.
She's not happy.
Instead of agreeing that they want different things and she will try to force the man to live like she wants by nagging. Depending if the man bends to the woman and her will, she will either be happy or continue forcing the man to accept her standards and continues nagging.
It's easy to see the man as a lazy, messy person who is responsible for nagging. However there would be no nagging if the woman would accept that the man doesn't want to meet her standards.
Neither of them is evil, bad or wrong.
There is not one correct way to live.
We should try to remember we are all different.
I'm not claiming nagging is wrong or that only women are naggers.
Found in Pixabay under searchword "complaining".. didn't find anything good with nagging.
I can leave breadcrumbs on the table for too long, I'm not washing the dishes all the time and I can leave my stuff around the table for a while. However I'm trying to clean all "messy" mess as fast as can, avoid liquids like milk or coffee staining anything, I'll clean the kitchen after cooking or baking and trying to clean up all the mess our son makes. Please don't take my post as a "messy man complaining"-post.
