It's like someone dragging sandpaper across your back, but not till it bleeds...just enough to alert your skin that there is a difference between gentle and rough. That's what it is like to live among "nice" people with honey-coated lips but tongues full of shards of glass.
"Wow, nice dress! I mean, it is cute, but it really looks like something a kindergarten child would wear," they say with smiles. While compliments polish, each word is a grain of sand slowly rubbing you down with disbelief. Gentle? Yes. Warm? Not really.
This phenomenon we observe in the office, in family groups, and even within the comment sections of social media. It is all wrapped up in sweet words, but the intention stings more than outright criticism. Ironically, this style is often considered graceful. If we were honest, it's simply a form of slapping with silk sheathings.
Facing "Smooth as Sandpaper" requires a lot of guts and learning to tell genuine advice from the barely disguised sarcasm-stalking a glimmer of a smile back. No, because everyone who caresses does not love you; some just simply scrap.
