I can't recall exactly when I realised my life was simply a reflection of myself and what I put into it; That was a while ago now though, and since then I've been careful to make sure that reflection resembled my ideal version of life.
I came to the realisation that my life would return me results commensurate to that which I put into it; Should that be ownership, effort and responsibility my life would begin to resemble the ideal-life I envisaged living. It was a refreshing realisation, although it hasn't always been easy to bring all of the elements required into each moment of life; It takes work.
We are all on a forward journey, whether we like it or not; Time moves no matter how much we may wish it would slow...Like the quote below however sometimes a look behind to what was may assist in the forward motion.
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”― Søren Kierkegaard