For Those Who Don't Fit In Anywhere (You have zero friends, period)

Originally uploaded: Dec 30th, 2020

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This is my love letter to the outsiders.

More on this in part 2:

One of the things I noticed during this 2020 pandemic is me reaching out to people because I wanted to re-connect, but they are the people that won't reach out to me unless they want something (Or want to borrow money).

I notice my path is different than my peers (i.e. entrepreneur, musician, etc). When you live a life people don't understand, low key some of the people you care for in your life will start distancing themselves from you OR start acting jealous OR all of the above. I noticed when I had my "quiet periods" The quirks and unique traits that should be embraced are the same reasons why they ditched me. Then when you make something of yourself they come around. Or claim they know you. They only support you when there's something in it for them, yet they were the same ones that tried to keep you from being successful.

In order to manifest what you are meant to have in life (or in this reality), you have to really look at the people you're with. Sometimes, the people you surround yourself with/trying to surround with can keep you from your higher purpose. BE CAREFUL! In fact they can sabotage your efforts and keep you from what you are meant to experience in this lifetime!

I love my fam and friends to death, but many times in my life too many of them (not all of them) projected their fears and mindsets, and tried to hold me back, especially when I wanted to take the road less traveled. Sometimes you have to separate yourself from the people you care about most. Several people I admired ended up being mean, so I stopped looking up to people and decided to become my own idol.

Many people have left. I'm fine. When people leave, open up the door and let them go. Don't chase them. https://aleshapeterson.medium.com/when-people-leave-your-life-open-the-door-and-let-them-go-4c47445c4a5b

Some people are there forever, others are only there for a season! And sometimes, people have circumstances where they disappear because they were going through a rough patch and come back. Be flexible. (Unless they were more trouble than they are worth, don't let them come back lmfao)

As a result of not having as many people to depend on in my life, I figure my way out of my own crap. I'm not going to ask friends for money, I'll come up with my own money. You start to have low dependency on people, and you use creative and crafty tactics to figure it out.

If you find you don't fit in, maybe you're on a different wavelength. Maybe you got better things in store, and your higher being won't allow you to fit in with them. The time you spend trying to fit in could be keeping what's really meant for you at bay.

Sure, it's great to have support, but it's not necessary.

You will find your people. Give it time and be your own best friend first, then you will find your people when you least suspect it.

And when you find your people, keep your individually.

Not fitting in and loving yourself is a gift and I hope you see it one of these days.

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