As intending, proposed or acting parents, there are times we wish that there is a manual basically meant to tutor us on how best we can raise our children to become better or the best children in the world. If only there could be a handout to go through and we could just retrace our steps back should we find any error in the process of our upbringing so that we are not questioned as to how we ended up raising such a spoilt brat as people would say.
But then, there is none as at the moment of writing this post and everyone has the independence of raising their children in the best way they deem fit either good or bad. As long as they are proud of their upbringing then it's fine.
However, the issue lies in you not suffering the impact alone if that bad upbringing starts springing forth. The community, society, and nation as a whole also suffers therein and that's why it's now a thing to bother about if my neighbor is not training his or her child well.
How do I know or be sure my neighbor isn't raising their children well? Is it because they are posh couples and could not do the physical with their kids by flogging them when they do something bad? Just like my mum and every other African mothers of GenX or something would always flog us when we do something bad.
Even a simple eye sign would give you the hint on the fact that you're in hot okro soup as soon as we get home or when this visitor leaves.
There are times the fingers of my mum would do the scolding and the person beside us won't know anything except if our cry gets bursted and could not be held in any longer. You know those twisting of flesh with just the thumb and index finger, lol. Truthfully, those serious scolding cautioned us from proceeding with bad things because we know we will be dealt with once we are caught in any bad act.
Still, we can't say that everyone who was beaten ended up being good children. Some ended up becoming the opposite of what the parents wished for and till now they are not a product to be proud of.
So we can't rubbish anyone who decides not to do physical with their kids, counting it as poor upbringing.
The only thing I suggest and think is okay is ensuring that you do the right thing at the right time. At this age and era that we are, with diverse exposures manipulating the minds of children and teens even adults that ain't that knowledgeable about life, their good reasoning and manners get shakes like a low stamina leg.
When you think it's best to use verbal scolding, make use of it and when you think it's worth using a touch of physical then I don't think it's bad. It only helps kids know when they have gone too far and are never going to repeat such mistakes again. Beating a child only becomes abnormal when it turns out to be an abuse, beating a child at every single thing they do whether it's worth being beaten or not. Such children even get to see the beating as something normal and what would only occur for some minutes, they cry and the pain of the flogging stops. It makes them keep repeating the same mistakes and not seeing it as a big deal anymore.
In summary, being physical with a child isn't a priority for good upbringing nor is it supposed to be shunned when necessary.
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