To be sincere with you, so many times I have been passing through this self-denial just because of the situation at hand. It is difficult to deny yourself of your happiness by doing something you felt would put you in a state of emergency. Whichever way, we can deny ourselves immediate happiness just to achieve something that would put a smile on our faces.
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I have been in this condition sometimes since seven years ago. It was hard to put myself in this condition, but I had no other option than to make the road clear for my success. No one would deprive himself or herself of achieving what would make or bring smiles and happiness to one's face.
My husband is someone I would always praise at all times for also making things possible or else, I would have been idle without doing anything, but would just be a housewife. Although, this is what most men wanted. They don't want their wives to do anything apart from remain at home. Mine was different.
I recently came to meet with my husband in Lagos. He has not prepared anything for me to lay my hands on, just because of his condition. He tried to, but money was the only hindrance we had. I always see other women either going to work or focused on their respective businesses. This has been giving me concern. I have stayed for a year now without doing anything. I began to get ashamed of going outside. To me, “what would people out there say when they see me just indoors”. Well, I can't blame my husband, but the economy of the country.
“I think I will borrow some money and use all of my salary to pay monthly. We just need to endure a hard time together until I'm done with the payment”, my husband said. I could not stand a chance of losing this opportunity, but then we have to manage until he is done with the payment. It's not easy, especially for my daughter.
After two days, my husband was given a sum of #350,000 to be paid back gradually.
I bought a container instead of renting a shop. I only paid a small amount for the land I placed in the container. Not only that, but I bought some items with just the little I had left.
We began to manage just to survive. We were not eating fine, but then I now leave the house to go to my shop. After a few years, he cleared up the debt, and we began to live fine, and my business is now doing great. A shop of few items is now filled up with so many goods.
If not for self-denial, this would not have happened.
Sporadically, it seems tough for us to deny ourselves our immediate happiness, but when we do, the result is a considerable gain.
Presently, we are happy for this unforgettable act or decision we have taken. No one would dare take this step as my daughter truly suffered a lot. She was just 1+. My happiness was that she is not the demanding type. She eat anything we are eating. Sometimes we drink garry (cassava flakes) without sugar jjst to deny ourselves the immediate happiness to face the long lasting happiness we wanted.
