Had this discussion last night on another platform.
It's worth sharing...
Discussion Highlights
Topic:
WHAT SHOULD BE DONE BY A WOMAN WHO BECOMES THE BREADWINNER EITHER BY COMPULSION OR DUE TO CIRCUMSTANCES AND SHE IS GETTING TIRED
Causes:
She can become one for different reasons : the man losing his job, no job at all for him , trial of faith, lack of responsibility on d part of the man or any other thing...
☆What to do and how to go about it.
I think being a breadwinner shouldn't be an issue
She just has to manage the situation until their condition normalises.
She will continue without looking back, praying for open doors for her husband and also help him search for any opportunity.
Depending on the cause and the duration.
You can't go further than your limited resources
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As a child of God, pray for grace for that season cos you must not become a nagging wife.
Add to your earning power... increase your streams of income....
Do what you can: prioritize your home needs....under important, urgent etc
Never become overwhelmed....you are not El- shaddai...or one will die!!!!
Give thanks... .have a thankful heart... . It could have been worse.. thank God you have at least a source.
For the hardworking type, the wife should continue to endure till he gets another job or any other thing to do. 2. For d one with no job and comfortable with the wife doing it all, is not acceptable he should stop being lazy and look for whatever work that can put food on the table.3 For the picky one ,let the woman do her bit till he gets up .Same treatment for the one who does not appreciate.
☆what to do in the situation where the man has money but is not dropping.
Strict dialogue. He should take care of his children and his wife.
He should be advised on counselling
☆What to do when the husband's family members are not helping matter.
I feel each party should talk to their family seperately and let them know they might not be able to assist at the moment. The wife should not speak with husband family or vice versa cos it might be misinterpreted.
The wife should talk less in the presence of the in-laws. And she should speak with her husband before making financial decisions in order to gain his confidence.
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Proverbs 15:1 KJV
Consciously decide to be good to every member of your husband's family irrespective of their wrong doings and pray your way out.
☆How to manage what you have and not be tagged as being arrogant.
Holy spirit intervenes.
Sometimes men use their wife's weakness to fight her. If it takes her to stand up for herself...do what she can...don't kill herself to please him. Be happy nonetheless but be strong.....
Men who desire this honour must be giving 100% looking back and one who does not should be handled with the help of holy ghost without needing to scatter ones home
☆How to avoid strife and disagreement in the process of being prudent.
Try to ensure he does not feel less like a man just because he could not bring anything home at the end of the month.
A woman should try to be as gentle as a dove in dealing with her husband in such situation.
Always pray for him sometimes pet him and reassure him that it will be well encourage him with the word of God bcos it's not easy for him especially if he has been doing very well in life. Sometimes if you don't manage him well he can go into depression and that will create another health problem for him. May God give us wisdom out of such situation in Jesus name.
☆How to reconnect in your marriage and forgive
Let go of all hurts and pray!
There is nothing heartfelt prayers cannot do. Ask God to give you the grace and wisdom to navigate this temporary situation and you will both come out on the other side a stronger couple.
Dialog
How we say what we say is as important as what we say. ie presentation of our points and the mood of the man are things to consider. Our good should not be ill spoken of.
The Lord help us.
In all of these, is it a good idea to report the man at any point maybe to a pastor or someone he respect if he is not yielding.
It's a two-way thing........
Prayerfull take your decision.
But if the issue is already out of your both hands and its heading for a rock anyway, why keep silent,,..meet your respected leader and pour your heart who knows if that will save the matter cos if you ddnt open up is still heading a wrong direction.
Being a breadwinner as a woman is not a crime or sin...let's support our husbands when necessary and prayerfully help them see reasons in opposite situations as mentioned above and prayerfully support them with the help of the holy spirit 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thanks and God bless us all and also our homes 🙏🏼
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