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Am really getting scared of teenagers of nowadays. They are getting more worst in Nigeria. They are engaged in negativity things that even some adult could not dare try. I saw some children in my street late in the night yesterday when I wanted to check up on my dog that was backing only to see some children passing by smoking, they are all teenagers not even a single adult among them. In my thought "this is really bad, I wonder what this world is turning into".
Every parents has a challenging task over their children now in Nigeria. With my experience, children of nowadays can't be handled with levity hands rather can you be too strict or harsh with them. As a parent, you have to have a positive communication and a warm relationship with your child.
Useful tips I can recommend for parents
In any situation, make use you hear your child out, listen to what your child want to say and feel instead of thinking of how to punish them after listening to your neighbor that came to report your child.
Make rules in the family about behaviour,U should also abide by the rules because when your child sees u also follow by the family rules yourself, your child gets a powerful example. For example, when you ask your child not to stay out late, you shouldn't also.
Make sure to take your child serious. Take interest in the developing ideas and opinion seriously even when you don't really agree with your child and convince him in a nice way.
Make him be responsible, this help him in becoming an adult. Some responsibility like choosing their clothe, hairstyle and so on.
share your feelings with him, tell him how you feel about his behavior and how is affecting you. For example, say " I really worry when you go play football after school rather than " u know u are supposed to come straight home after school!!
make sure u always comments on your child positive behaviour,this will make him want to keep behaving that way .spend time together, have fun, give help and support your child .arguing ,blaming and criticising only worsen your relationship with your child.
U can also take consequence on him on what he loves doing if he break the rules but bit for long ,just a short period of time till he pleaded and make sure he knows why he is be derived of that.
Teenagers really crave for privacy. Give him a little privacy, like asking permission before going into his rooms, its makes him happy that you believe in him.
If you are thinking of handling your child in the way you are handled by your parents, then you are missing it because their world have changed from your world then.
Do not forget
Abbidex care always.