My boyfriend is my first. At first sex did not bring pleasure, all the time it was very painful. But somewhere in a month I felt the most pleasant sensations that everyone is talking about. In delight, jumping on it, shouted: "So that's why people get fucked!". The guy is still laughing.
For me, a member is a member, they can all be poked roughly and without feelings, but the hands, it's already something more intimate. That is not everyone can. It's like touching a loved one from the inside, it's much steeper than sex. In the hands more feelings, whoever that spoke.