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Culturally, people’s attitude toward women and sex is really screwed up (no pun intended). Society tells us that sex is dirty, filthy, and wrong. Then, on that magical day at some point in their adulthood, those formerly dirty women get married (if any guy will still have them and their tattered hymens) and the sex act, a thing they've been doing in a dirty way for years, suddenly transforms into an amazing and blessed experience. Sex, you see, is a very bad, dirty thing that you should only do with someone you love very, very much.
This is ridiculous. In fact, premarital sex is a morally good thing. It's time we stopped seeing it as something wrong and started seeing it as something that, for most of us, is totally right.
These points below would convince even the most ardent of this fact.
1.People who have sex are happier.
Fact! Having sex once a week is the happiness equivalent of an extra $50,000 in the bank. Especially if you're having sex with a rich guy. (hmmm…rich guys don't try in bed.)
Sex is healthy and natural.
Human beings reproduce sexually, which means that each of us is almost certainly the result of a sexual union - you might even say we're fucklings. It is natural and normal for most mature pesons to want and to pursue sex, and our bodies reward us when we do - we get some exercise, endorphins, and orgasms. Imagine what all that would feel like if we didn't also attach unnecessary guilty luggage to it.Premarital sex leads to more stable marriages.
A society that encourages women to prioritize participation outside of the home leads to more women choosing to go to college, to build a stable career before they focus on partnering up and settling down. Because sexuality is a human need, it stands to reason that during that time they're focused on being things other than wives and mothers, they'd be having the sex fun of their lives, which is fine! Because after they get married, women who got their ya-ya's out earlier in life tend to stay married, tend to raise more successful children, and tend to be happier.Sex feels great and is fun.
Ethical sexuality - sex that "takes precautions to protect the physical and mental health of yourself and your partner that is fully consensual and focused on mutual pleasure." So, you know, using sex as a positive way to interact with someone who is totally into it rather than a self-destructive way to get back at your dad who didn't hug you enough or your ex who cheated on you. This means doing it with a willing partner, this means making sure your partner has a good time, this means protecting yourself using condoms or whatever is sufficient for the two of you to have the best time possible in the safest way possible.A wedding isn't a magic spell that transforms sex from something that is "bad" to something that can't ever be bad.
Especially if you've lived your life up to your wedding believing that you had a sin-hole between your legs.
Sex is good whether you're married or not, and certainly folks who wait until marriage can have a lot of sex once they tie the knot. But waiting until marriage often means both early marriage and conservative views on marriage and gender – and people who marry early and/or hold traditional views on marriage and gender tend to have higher divorce rates and unhappier marriages.
Antiquated views that lead people to believe that there is such a thing as sexual "purity" can also lead to a messed up postmarital relationship with sex.Not everyone is sexually compatible
Sexual compatibility matters in relationships, and bad sex, for many people, is a dealbreaker. Take the car out for a test drive, and if the stick shift feels awkward to you or the airbags frighten you, move along. Someone else will be happy to drive that car.Discouraging people from having premarital sex has never, not once, not at any point in human history, succeeded in getting people to actually stop having sex.
More than 80% of Adults have sex before they get married. So pretending that abstinence is a viable option for any meaningful segment of the population is at best obtuse and at worst really, really, really dumb. Instead of the government has spent a dizzying amount of money on programs designed to discourage people from having sex before they're married, which demonstrably doesn't work; our resources would be better spent on things that aren't the educational equivalent of digging a big hole in the ground and dumping piles of cash into it. Things like proper use of birth control, self-respect, and respect for others. The Puritans are dead. It's about time we stopped letting them dictate our attitudes toward sex.