Hello everyone! I hope you are very well today and that your day is really going very well too. It's Hivenaija weekly engagement #68, and it is so exciting to be here again.
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There are times in your life when you need to ask people about yourself just to know what they think about you. And you need to be very open to their opinions, as that will make you correct yourself for so many things you did know. Doing this will make it very easy for you to be loved by other people. I know some people usually say that they do not want to live just to impress other people, but trust me, you need these people to succeed in whatever you are doing. Just be humble to get advice or opinions from other people so that life will be easy for you. I know how hard it is for a grown man or woman to be told the truth about himself or herself the hard way. I surround myself with people who are always very blunt whenever they want to tell me the truth, and I like it.
I remember that one I asked my siblings about myself, and they started by telling me that I am very autocratic and that I do not carry them along in my decisions, especially when it concerns things about the family that I decide by myself. They said that I don't listen to them, and I do most of the family things to favour myself and dad. At first I felt bad because I did not know all of these, and I also wanted to make sure that I impressed dad.
Before this time, other people would always tell me that I was very soft and tender, that I don't like trouble, and how I avoid it. So these two opinions were opposite each other, and I wonder how it was so. My siblings, who are so blunt with everyone around them, told me how I don't care about their feelings and how I don't listen to them. I needed to sit them down to apologise and try to let them know I was going to try to listen to them and also carry them along.
I believe in success, and I don't like failing, so having to wait for other people to join me in whatever I want to do looks as if they would make me fail. I love achieving goals at the set time, so if it looks as if nobody is going that way, I may unknowingly drop that person. So for my siblings, I try as much as possible to carry them along. My father is a farmer, and he likes hard work too, so when I go to the farm for work, he makes me in charge of the farm if he wants to step out, so I used to do everything possible for us to finish the work before he was back, but siblings would always want to rest in-between, and me seeing that would make me feel like we wouldn't finish on time, so to avoid that, I would always shout on the phone and see to it that we were done with the farmwork. And that is why they told me that I am very rigid.
Learning from that, I saw that everyone does not have the same strength I have, so I should be sensitive enough to know who and who has the same energy I have so that I will not have to cause any issues for other people and make sure everyone feels better with me.