One and a thousand one more time ...

Love is actions.

If you take the signs, it's your decision to stay there, watching how time passes and your life goes by in a relationship without tone or son that does not produce happiness, or you take the step and learn to love yourself enough to say “since your love is only words and not deeds, the river brought us here”.

May I assume that none of these signs will be plain and simple?

When you understand that, then the definitions don't matter so much.
Look, love is not sustained on the basis of promises, because without actions, there is no true love. Absolutely always love should be shown, not just said.

Not everyone understands that and that's why they prefer nice words that don't last a lifetime.

It's easier to believe that they love you than to realize that their actions show you that they don't. That's why we're stuck with words.

When we understand that love is actions, then at that moment you know exactly if they are really loving you or you are deceiving yourself, believing that they love you, when it is not so.

In fact, they can tell you "I love you a thousand and one times", but if they do not prove it to you with clear, constant and convincing facts, that I love you, in reality, is a pure lie.

Has it happened to you that you give everything in a relationship and do not receive in the same measure?

In my view of things, it is fundamental not to give our love to someone who does not deserve it.

We have to get someone who wants the same thing as us. Once we get it, we have to understand that love is not forever, so we have to build it day by day to make it so.

Do you have it clear?

We must turn the problems of bad loves into strength in the couple's relationship and learn to build healthy relationships; we can always improve to recover emotionally.

The opposite ends in separation and later in divorce.

Opening your eyes in a toxic relationship is difficult, but getting out of it is worth it. Undoubtedly, being united to a person who makes us unhappy, can destroy us, is something that we should avoid in every way. With everything and fear we have to get out of there.

It is very real that decisions are made when we are very much in love and then over time we see the flaws and the truths. What I'm writing about applies to any relationship, even friends. Giving in the same measure is my vision of things and life, it's like that.

Leaving someone who loves you, but that you no longer love, in the end, is an act of love for ourselves and for that person.
One of the most difficult things... without a doubt.

Did you live something like this? 😬

Think about that. And then we talked about it in comments.

Janitze 🌹